Mildred worries as 'trial wife' Aussie's commitment issues makes 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' experiment 'tough'
TEXAS: The five couples who agreed to participate in 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' had no idea what they were getting themselves into when they agreed to go on a three-week 'trial marriage' with their chosen one. However, some of the couples that pair off in Episodes 2 and 3 demonstrate that the experiment may be the best option for the initial pairings who appeared on the show together.
The following episodes are best summarized as follows: unending tears and drinks, an envious look across the fire pit, and that very distinct grim voice tone reserved for long-term partners engaged in disputes they have rehearsed many times before. This time, though, everyone is watching: viewers, many cameras, and nine other emotional candidates crammed onto the same outdoor patio with a bar. The new couples have three weeks to live together and figure out if they are more suited for each other than the folks they arrived with, just like in the original series 'The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On'. But when Aussie Chau and Mildred Bustillo left their respective partners to give each other a chance, they had no idea that one's dread of commitment would put the entire experiment on hold.
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Mildred chose Aussie after giving Tiff the ultimatum
Aussie and Mildred chose each other because of 'mutual admiration'. They're yet another couple who appear to connect on a deep and profound level. Mildred describes Aussie as "such a deep person," and Aussie responds, "I feel that I can connect with you on so many levels." They appear to be a couple who may work out when the show finishes, if they desire to remain together.
Tiff Der appeared to have discovered Mildred on the Instagram hashtag "lesbian Latina" in 2019, only to quickly sneak into her DMs to express their desire. Turns out, they were exactly the type of person the other needed at the moment, igniting a full-fledged relationship that led to them constructing a joyful (but turbulent) home together.
We say turbulent because Tiff and Mildred argued frequently, had serious communication problems, and separated at least once or twice a month before reconciling – it was just toxic. As a result, even though they'd shown they were compatible in bed and their partner was more than ready for the next step, the former was truly concerned about what marriage might look like.
However, Tiff also battled with determining if Mildred wanted the notion of marriage in her life or whether she wanted it with them, making this entire attempt ideal for this couple. This isn't to say they didn't struggle to adjust to their new normal of seeking a "trial wife"; they did. But the process helped them realize where they needed to change. However, when it came time to make a decision, the former made it obvious that they only wanted their first love, despite the fact that they were confident they'd have a terrific "trial marriage" with their choice.
Tiff eventually picked the gentle, sympathetic Sam Mark to be their "trial wife," whilst Mildred preferred the quiet Aussie, despite a lot of emotional tears and a definite sense of distance. And that's when things started to change for them as individuals, not just as a couple; while the former learned how to communicate better thanks to their new companion after a few outbursts and rude encounters with her, the latter remained quite passive-aggressive with her new mate at every friction-causing step of the way. So it was truly unknown how the initial couple would fare at the end of their three-week trial marriage.
Aussie's commitment issue made Sam take up the experiment
Despite the fact that Sam first met Aussie in an online social network for LGBTQ+ people during the pandemic, she knew they'd be the one for her almost as soon as they went offline. The reality is that, despite being a decade younger than Aussie, Sam was more than ready to take the next step, get engaged, marry, and move on, but the latter was nowhere close to making things permanent. Instead, her companion of 1½ years desired to live together for the next five years before deciding whether this tie was truly "meant to be" and whether they were willing to "go to that marriage state."
Sam genuinely hoped that Aussie would agree with her because the latter had claimed they were serious, which is why she didn't mind when they became close to Mildred. This was partially due to the fact that she had discovered a potential match in Tiff, with whom she could talk about any issue under the sun without feeling like she was walking on eggshells. When it came time to make "the choice" for their three-week trial marriage, they both moved forward with their new partners in the hopes of finally figuring out what they wanted.
'I'm just doing so much that I'm not used to'
Both of these new endeavors had their ups and downs due to the significant disparities in personality, but Sam and Aussie recognized the areas in which they needed to grow. Because of her compassion, the former eventually started standing up for herself rather than being a facilitator of others' behavior, and her "ex" partner saw they needed to communicate better. However, because Aussie's childhood trauma, as well as a few other comparable factors, created a lot of worries and unsure footing, things were far more difficult for them than anybody could have imagined.
When Mildred complains about Aussie's poor communication abilities, things between the two get heated. Mildred said that she had taken up all the housework and that Aussie did nothing to assist. "I'm just doing so much that I'm not used to," she says.
Mildred stated in her confessional, "Ever since I met Aussie's friend, Mo, I notice a different person in Aussie." During the meeting, Aussie's buddy made a point of bringing up her commitment concerns with Mildred, her new partner. "The commitment is just, like, not matching," Mildred continues. She doubts Aussie is as dedicated to the experiment as she is. Before the cast gathers for a cocktail party, Aussie and Mildred argue again when Aussie professes to be 'considerate' of others' sentiments, to which Mildred fails to object. Mildred continues to go to the core of the situation, smashing the two's communication issues. Aussie, who professes to despise confrontation, tries to move on from the argument.
The first four episodes of 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' is currently airing on Netflix. The final episode will air on June 7.