Teen asks if he was wrong for wearing ‘Corpse Bride’ dress to friend's 'surprise' wedding
Would it be okay to wear a wedding dress to your friend's wedding? What if you did not know there was going to be a wedding in the first place? A Reddit user faced the same conundrum as he posted on the 'Am I The A**hole' forum. The post has gained more than 31,400 upvotes and over 6,000 comments.
In a Reddit post titled "AITA for wearing a wedding dress at a wedding?" the 19-year-old man said that he was invited to a small costume party by his friend, 20 to celebrate her engagement. He wrote, "I asked if there was a theme and she said there wasn’t. I’m a cosplayer so I had a lot of choices. I didn’t want to rock up in an anime cosplay, so I thought it would be funny to go to an engagement party as the Corpse Bride."
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A surprise marriage
What happened next left him flummoxed. The user wrote, "I arrived at her house yesterday and everything seemed normal. A few people complemented my costume and I was having a lot of fun. After ten minutes my friend’s fiancé walked out in a black tuxedo and announced this was actually their wedding. Apparently my friend saw a video of someone doing this and wanted to do the same."
Stating that he offered to go and change, he continued, "He asked us all to go to the back yard for the ceremony to begin. I went straight to him. I asked him if I should quickly go home and change my outfit and that I would get back before it started. He told me it was fine since I didn’t know this was the wedding. I trusted him and followed everyone outside."
However, things felt off as he proceeded to the wedding. He wrote, "They got married and everything seemed good. The reception was just in their house again so everyone just walked back inside and picked up where they left off. I tried talking to my friend and celebrating with her but she kept making excuses to not talk to me."
Later on, once he got home, more unpleasant surprises awaited him. The user said that he received a number of messages from his friend, accused him of ruining her wedding. He wrote, "I got home and half an hour passed when my phone started getting notifications. I checked and it was my friend texting me. She was cussing me out and telling me how I ruined her wedding. I was really confused and asked what I did. That only made her angry. She told me it was basic knowledge not to wear a wedding dress to a wedding."
He said that her husband said it was OK. "I reminded her I had no idea it was a wedding and that I asked her now husband if I should change and he said it was fine. She didn’t respond, but I got a text from her husband. He asked why I would tell her he said it was fine. I told him he said it was fine. Then he said how I should have changed anyways and it’s my fault that the two are now fighting over this. I’ve tried texting her that I was sorry and if I had known I wouldn’t have done it. I woke up today and saw her and her husband have blocked me on everything," the user concluded.
'No spine'
Many people supported the teenager. A user wrote, "The facts of this are pretty simple. 1. You were told this is a costume party so you wore a costume. 2. When asked about a theme you were not given any restrictions. 3. They sprung a surprise wedding on you. 4. Once you realized this you asked the groom if you should go home and change and the groom said no. They had multiple chances to get you to change and they didn't take any of them so getting mad with you after the fact doesn't make any sense."
Some people blamed it on the husband's stupidity, as a person wrote, "So you get invited to a costume party and show up in the costume of the corpse bride. suddenly this costume party is a surprise wedding, seeing a potential issue you go up to the groom and ask him if you should change, this chuckle fuck says it's fine and you believe him because why would he lie. wedding happens, you get shit for what you were explicitly told was fine, the groom backpedals to try and cover up his stupidity, and both he and your friend block you; now you have two fewer idiots in your life to deal with. NTA, sorry you got caught up in this mess OP."
Another person wrote, "This 'husband' just has no spine, sorry. Trying to LIE about a decision he made in good-will, not knowing that it upset his now wife, is just... I dunno. Sad, I guess. Also I don't really understand the mentality behind "you ruined my special day" by wearing a costume. @OP: she's your friend, so knowing you're a Cosplayer would have given her THE best opportunity to give you a fake main theme, so it would fit right in and be fun for you. she saw you in that costume before the ceremony. Again: she's your friend, not a stranger. She could just have taken you to the side and asked you to reconsider your costume, because 'there will be a bit of a surprise down the line'.
There were probably a lot more opportunities to change the situation, yet she chose to be silently fuming, and inadvertently ruining her own day. By herself."
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