Woman cites brother-in-law's 'life choices' to keep him away from future daughter, Internet says 'stop judging'
A pregnant woman revealed online that she wanted to limit her brother-in-law's access to her future daughter due to his "dating choices." The woman was highly criticized by netizens, who told her that she should "stop judging."
The woman's post on Reddit went viral and garnered 6.1k comments in less than twenty-four hours. In the post, she wondered, "AITA for wanting to limit my BIL's access to my unborn daughter because of his dating choices?"
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'The issue is his life choices'
The woman wrote, "Dummy account because the relevant parties are on Reddit. I (31 F) am pregnant with a girl. My husband (33) has a younger brother (31) whose he's very close to. However I recently told my husband that I don't feel comfortable with the idea of his brother spending much time with my daughter once she's born. It's not because of my BIL himself. We're not close but he's fine. The issue is his life choices."
'Dates only for sexual purpose'
The user then explained what she finds wrong with the brother-in-law. "He's not married, has no intention of getting married or having kids, and dates only for sexual purpose," she fumed. "He dates multiple women and the only thing he has in common with them is that, like him, they are extremely good looking. He's highly intelligent, yet he has no interest in meaningful relationships. I spoke to him about his choices a few years ago, and after accusing me of being 'moralistic', he claims that he always uses protection and he never leads the women on."
"Which I call BS on," she added, "as I can't imagine any woman with an increasing ticking biological clock would willingly be in a relationship which she knows doesn't have a future. Not to mention, what woman would want to be with someone who may not even remember your name in a year's time?"
'Women of a certain type'
The woman told her husband about her preference. "However he called me an AH, and said that it was ridiculous to limit our daughter's access with her uncle just because I don't agree with his legal dating choices. AITA?" she asked. She added later, "EDIT: I probably should have clarified that he generally goes onto apps like Tinder. Which makes it worst, as the women he dates tend to be of a certain type."
'Stop judging everyone'
The post was met with severe criticism. A user wrote, "YTA It's 2023. It's okay for women to like sex outside of the quest to "land" a husband. As long as he's being honest and safe, what's the problem?"
A second user asked the woman to 'stop judging' and wrote, "Yeah I mean it's such a weird concept ... I won't let my baby daughter be around a relative who has a sex life I don't approve of weird and a bit ick ? Also why does she hate women? None of her comments about women are nice ... tbh I'd hate to have a mum like that who finds human intimacy so abhorrent YTA stop judging EVERYONE soooo much !"
Another comment read, "I desperately want kids and I'm still offended on behalf of women. I know more ladies who don't want kids than do, and tinder is mostly a hook up app. Absolute YTA."
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