Ignorance or old school? Woman stops going to boyfriend's parents' home due to a 'stupid rule'
There is a limit to ignorance in this day and age, and a Redditor showed that certain people were capable of surpassing that as well. The 24-year-old woman took to the 'AITA' forum to speak about how her boyfriend's "ignorant" parents left her feeling so bad that she decided to never visit them again. The post has garnered over 8,000 upvotes and more than 1,000 comments.
In the Reddit post, titled 'AITA for no longer wanted to go over to my in-laws after they refused to let me get in their pool?' the woman said her ordeal began when her 23-year-old boyfriend's parents invited her to a football draft party at their brand-new Florida home that had a pool as well.
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'No women allowed in the pool'
In the post, the woman said that his father was the one who usually took care of the party as they lived in an apartment that was too small for these things. "Anyways, fast forward I helped put together a board where the guys can write their players on every round and helped my bf’s mom set up the food. The party started and I changed into my swimsuit. I was finishing up setting up the food with his mother when my bf asked me to come outside," she wrote.
She added, "He wanted me to get in the pool. I’d like to note I was wearing a one piece that was not revealing as I wanted to respect everyone there plus I felt more comfortable in it anyways. I have body image issues."
As she was changing, she discovered something unnerving, "When I was unbuttoning my shorts his dad called me inside. My bf’s dad and mom pulled me into their room and proceeded to tell me that “no women are allowed in the pool” the reason is because they don’t want to distract the men or make them uncomfortable."
This seemed like jolt for the woman but she kept mum and did not react. She wrote, "It was their home after all so I just said okay and didn’t press any further. Fast forward and my bf is asking me where I am via text and I tell him I’m inside helping his mom still but he insisted I come outside again to talk. He tells me to get in again and I keep telling him I don’t want to, trying no to make a scene or play victim. He noticed my odd behavior and when I finally told him the truth he was pissed. He told his parents they were outta line and that the “rule” was unnecessary and stupid."
Her boyfriend confronted the parents about the rule and they still refused to let the woman enter the pool. When the couple went back to their home, she confided in him about how she "felt small, disrespected, and frankly embarrassed."
She concluded with, "I further explained that his parents were extreme inconsiderate for invited us over and never telling us this “rule” that they suddenly made. He told me that they are old school and I told him that they were ignorant and inconsiderate and that I didn’t feel comfortable going over again. He told me I was being over dramatic," before asking if she was in the wrong.
'Absolutely ridiculous'
Reddit users collectively supported the woman. A person wrote, "NTA. Your inlaws just informed you that you are a distraction to men. You're not a person with human feelings, you're something to be hidden. When asked to reconsider they double down. They don't see you as an equal to your boyfriend, and if your boyfriend doesn't support you on this.. do you need him?" while another added, "Aren't they also kinda admitting that they believe that the men they associate with have such little respect for women, including their friends girlfriend, that they might do harm to her? Like that's how they feel about the company they keep. Wow."
Another person commented, "NTA, But why were you covering for your MIL? She said some misogynistic bs and you... were trying to hide it from your bf because...?
They live in mf FLORIDA, good luck not ever seeing a woman in a bikini, LOL. Absolutely ridiculous."
Another supportive user chimed in, "NTA, and your boyfriend had your back at first but then changed his tune and just said his parents are old school. I'm with you, I wouldn't want to go over there anymore, either. Because you're a woman, you can't go in the pool and have to stay in the house and help cook? Hell naw, to the naw naw naw."
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