Internet rages over bride's reason for not having her sister as her bridesmaid
The Internet slammed a woman who refused her sister's request to be her bridesmaid due to her appearance. The woman posted about her sister's appearance on Reddit, saying that she was 'jealous' of her. However, this post received a lot of attention from Reddit users, and it garnered 923 comments within 16 hours.
The woman, though, received a brutal slamming from the other Reddit users, as she was even tagged as an "A** Hole" and also called an 'insecure' person. The woman took to Reddit and explained the whole scenario of her sister, writing, "Background: I (25F) am a homely-looking girl. There is no other way to say it; I am not hot or even pretty by most people's standards."
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'She's also a genuinely great person'
She further added, "My sister (27F), "Bella" is one of the most beautiful women who has ever walked this planet. Like, got stopped on the street and in the mall multiple times while we were growing up for modeling opportunities."
The user added, "We have different dads, and she won the genetic lottery. I was jealous of her as a kid, especially because we were always compared to one another. I'm 5'4, average body, slightly below average face. She's 5'11, thin, and all around just really gorgeous. She's also a genuinely great person. She's humble and sweet, and even though she could've made a living off of her looks, she ended up going into social work and now works with kids in foster care. Her and I are close. We see one another a bit less since she moved to a new city with her husband, but we constantly text and call. I was her maid of honor two years ago at her wedding."
The user added, "Four months ago, my fiancé (30M), Allen, proposed to me and I said yes. My family was excited for me and they all like him. Him and I have been together for just over two years. Bella and Allen are close as well, and we often have them over for dinner or go to their house for game nights. Now to the issue. I thought about it a lot and decided to not have Bella in my bridal party. I just wanted one day where we weren't standing side-by-side, being compared. I wanted to be the pretty one standing at the alter on my day. I've gotten over my jealousy of her for the most part and accepted myself for how I look and who I am, but the thought of everyone looking at her at my wedding broke my heart."
The user further added that her sister wanted to be the "maid of honor" and wrote, "She obviously thought she would be my maid of honor, and so before I asked anyone to be in my bridal party, I went to her house to talk to her. I didn't want her to hear through the grapevine or social media that she wasn't only not my maid of honor, but not in my bridal party at all. When I went over and told her and explained my reasoning, she started to cry."
'She said it was really hurtful'
At last, she mentioned how bad her sister felt was and wrote, "She didn't get mad at me, but she said it was really hurtful that I'd exclude her because of how she looks. I understand her point. Her and I are best friends. She's been giving me a bit of a cold shoulder since this happened, and my parents (both our mom and each of our dads) have called me a major AH for doing this to her, saying she's more upset than she let on but didn't want to taint "my day" with drama. She RSVP'd to the wedding invite, so I know she'll still be coming no matter what, but I feel bad that I have excluded her just because of her looks now. So, AITA?"
Internet says, nothing about 'pretty privilege'
Since the post went online, the comment section was spilled with brutal comments. As one of the users wrote, "There's no indication that OP's sister is whining. She's upset because her sister broke her heart about not being in the bridal party, but it has nothing to do with "pretty privilege". OP's insecurities are not the sister's fault nor are they her responsibility to manage." Another user wrote, "The softest YTA I have ever bestowed. At the wedding, you would be 100% be the center of attention. Nobody who cares about the people compares the bride in the way that you fear. Now, the question "What happened between the sisters?" will be front-and-center. I highly recommend you re-evaluate."
The third user wrote, "Have to say that line was the tipping point for me. This isn't how you treat your sister OR your best friend, let alone someone who is both. I get that she has massive insecurities, but this is a cruel thing to do to someone you claim to love. She can't help how she looks anymore than OP can, but somehow OP thinks it's not shitty to purposefully exclude her from something joyous just because of it, especially after acting as her sister's MoH. YTA OP, and you just might ruin your relationship with your sister and "best friend" over it."
