'Major red flag': Internet supports woman for hiding truth from boyfriend’s family
SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA: A devastated woman received netizens’ support after she revealed how her boyfriend’s family said rude things to her in Spanish without knowing that she can understand their language. The 26-year-old Caucasian woman, who goes by the username Distinct_Bug_6892, explained that she grew up speaking fluent Spanish after she was adopted into a Spanish household when she was just a toddler.
However, she “learned English through school and as of now i speak more so in English than Spanish.” The woman is currently living with her 29-year-old boyfriend, whom she met six years ago at university. “My boyfriend, let’s call him Stan, was raised in a more traditional Spanish household than me. Stan and I got engaged in the backend of last year and I have only met his parents once Stan on the other hand refuses to meet my adoptive parents sadly.” She wrote in a post on Reddit’s 'AITA' forum. The pair dated each other for six years, but Stan didn’t realize that his girlfriend could speak Spanish.
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'We can’t give out our blessing'
The girlfriend stated that a few days ago Stan asked her to meet his parents as they wanted to talk to her about their future. “Stan's parents told me they wanted me to change my faith to something I don’t want to repeat for us to get married and have their blessing Stan agreed with his parents as I sat there shocked,” she continued. In the middle of the conversation, Stan left to get a glass of water when his parents started talking in Spanish and said a few rude things, including "she’s not right for our son", "we can’t give out our blessing", and "she won’t even be able to do anything right.”
Stan’s parents’ remark left the user heartbroken, as she immediately left their house and ran back home to pack some of her things. She is currently living at her mother’s house and hasn’t talked to her since that day. In further edit, the OP noted that Stan recently came to meet her and she greeted him in Spanish. “I met with Stan but my parents came as they didnt think i would be safe with his past aggression towards me, my parents and i greeted him in Spanish (his face dropped) I told him I no longer want to be together and want him out of my house within 2 weeks (my parents own the house and let me live there) he begged me to stay with him and said he'd make everything change and his parents apologize to me. I gave him the ring and left with him crying.” She concluded.
'Stan sounds like a giant prick'
The girlfriend’s post has since garnered immense social media attention, with users supporting her in her decision. One user said “So many red flags. He refuses to meet your family. He doesn't warn you that he wants you to convert religions. He doesn't know you speak Spanish. His parents speak badly of you in another language in front of you. Run, pronto.”
“NTA. It's rude to talk shit about someone in a different language while in their presence. Also, why the fuck does Stan refuse to meet your parents? You're engaged, for Christ's sake. If he can't see how unfair that is to you, you should definitely break up with him,” second user said. While the third asserted “NTA - They shouldn't have been saying rude things about you, and they definitely shouldn't have done so in the same room as you. You have done nothing wrong.”
“Stan sounds like a giant prick. I'm not even going to get started on his parents. I'm sorry you wasted 6 years of your dating life on this complete asshole but be grateful that it wasn't 20. By the way, the man who you're marrying does not get to say he won't meet your parents. He doesn't get to tell you to change your religion. I am so completely disgusted.” Another user wrote.
