Internet blasts 'ungrateful' woman for expecting BF's parents to treat her daughter like their grandchild
The internet has no sympathy for the mother who wants her boyfriend's parents to treat her daughter like their own grandchild. The scenario was discussed by the original poster (OP), u/bfdaughterdrama on Reddit's popular forum, "Am I The A**hole". The post garnered almost 10k upvotes and 5 comments from fellow Redditors.
In the Reddit post titled "AITA for expecting my boyfriend's parents to treat my daughter the same as his daughters?" The woman, 37 starts by saying that she has been dating a guy named Martin for the past two years. She has a daughter, Scarlett whose father is absent from her life. Martin has two daughters, Miley and Joanna with his ex-wife with whom he has a "very flexible" custody arrangement, "with the girls sometimes staying with him or their mum longer or often spending times with both parents together."
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'All they got Scarlett was an embroidered blanket thing Martin’s mother spent weeks knitting'
She further details, "since we’ve been dating a while and have started discussing potentially living together I think it’s only really fair that Scarlett is more involved and treated the same as Martin’s daughters by his parents. She met them for the first time a few months ago and has since seen them a few times since but she’s treated virtually like a stranger. At Christmas, Miley and Joanna were spoilt rotten. They got money, gifts, toys, gift vouchers and makeup. All they got Scarlett was an embroidered blanket thing Martin’s mother spent weeks knitting apparently with her name on it, two gift vouchers and a doll."
The woman does not like the way Scarlett is excluded from other activities like sleepovers. According to her, the grandparents buy "sweets or little trinkets" worth several pounds for their two granddaughters and only give Scarlett "one thing and that's it." The last straw for her came when the grandparents refused to fully fund Scarlett's trip to Disneyland Paris like they are doing for Martin and his daughters. "They offered to pay for Martin, the girls and said that they could pay for part of mine and Scarlett’s travel expenses, but that I’d have to pay the rest."
OP writes that she "lost it and told Martin he needs to tell his parents to treat Scarlett like his girls are treated. It’s not fair to her that she has to watch her sisters being spoilt and she isn’t." Martin did not share that sentiment and said that OP was "incredibly selfish to expect his parents to treat my daughter who they barley [barely] know as the same as their grandchildren. He said that I’m bitter and jealous and it’s not like we’re married or living together. He used the example of the blanket being a really sweet gift that shows how much his mother cares. He also said that Joanna and Miley are not Scarlett’s sisters, it’s never been emphasised they were and they do not view Scarlett as that. He said that I need to ‘get your arse in gear and realise nothing is being done to discriminate against or exclude Scarlett.’"
'You sound ungrateful and grabby'
Redditors flocked to the comment section and called out OP for being ungrateful and jealous when Martin's parents haven't done anything wrong, and branding as YTA (You're The A**hole). One user wrote, "YTA. It sounds like they're trying, they are giving her thoughtful gifts and offering to help pay for you and Scarlett to go to Disney. That's pretty generous considering you're not married and they only met Scarlett a few months ago. Frankly, you sound ungrateful and grabby demanding that they treat her like an instant grandchild and lavish gifts upon her. It's also rather telling that you say their grandchildren were "spoilt rotten" by their grandparents at Christmas. It reeks of jealousy and makes we wonder why you want someone to spoil your daughter rotten, too."
Another user commented,"OP’s daughter gets a HANDMADE gift and she thinks that the grandparents aren’t doing enough? THAT’s entitled BS. OP, why don’t YOU try to spend weeks knitting an “embroidered blanket thing” with your daughter’s name on it sometime. Maybe THEN you’ll appreciate the thought and effort that went into it. YTA"
A third user wrote with a similar sentiment, "YTA. I can’t imagine an adult saying “all they got my daughter was a super thoughtful knit blanket, and 3 other gifts” that’s… a lot. They absolutely don’t have to pay anything for your trip to Disneyland. What is your deal? Are you using Martin and his family for their wealth? I hope your daughter is more grateful than you."
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