Internet hails teenager for standing up to 'pathetic' father and laughing at him
SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA: A 17-year-old girl posted about the struggles she had with her "pathetic” father. In Reddit’s sub-section 'AITA', the teenager wrote, “AITA for laughing at my dad and telling him he's pathetic when he said I should be glad he's trying to be a better dad to his stepkids?”
The youngster wrote, “I'm 17f and I have an older brother who is 19. My dad was never a very good dad. He and my mom separated when I was young but never divorced, not sure why. He was crappy as a dad before the separation, crappy after the separation and crappy when my mom died three years ago. By crappy I mean he wasn't there.”
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‘I told her this isn't my family’
The teenager continued, “Didn't spend time with us, didn't show up for anything, didn't take care of us when we were sick, never knew anything about us, etc. While living in the same house there were times I didn't see him in two, three or even four months at all. About two years ago he met Sally, married her after six months, and she had her three kids under 10 moved into the house. Dad is so much more involved with Sally's kids than he ever was with me or my brother.”
The teenager also mentioned that her brother was not on talking terms with her father. She said that her stepmother wants her to be nice to with her children. “She told me I should embrace being a big sister now and embrace having a bigger family. I told her this isn't my family. This is just where I stay until I can move out and be with my family, my brother,” the teenager shared.
‘I told him this was no family of mine’
The Reddit user elaborated, “Sally must have told dad because he spoke to me after I said that to her. Then he spoke to me again and again and again. Then, after a few months of me just ignoring his attempts to talk, he asked why I was being such a brat and why I wasn't getting to know my family. I told him this was no family of mine. He was no dad to me or my brother. I told him he was a s****y f*****g dad and did he really think we'd be happy he was being a better dad to kids not his own.”
“He said they are his kids and they're my siblings now and I should embrace that. That pissed me off. He told me I should be glad he's trying to be a better dad to them and by being a better dad to them it will make him a better dad to my brother and I too. I laughed and called him pathetic and reminded him yet again he was a s****y f*****g dad,” the teenager wrote, adding, “Sally and her kids heard everything. The kids were upset that I said we weren't siblings. Sally thought I was being a spoiled little princess for judging my dad super harshly."
She concluded, “Then they (dad and Sally) got my grandparents involved who decided to preach forgiveness and reconciliation to me. They implored me to make an effort to salvage things with dad now that he has grown. They also said calling my father pathetic and laughing at him is wrong. I feel like I'm living in another reality but gotta ask AITA?”
‘Sending you hugs. So so many hugs’
Several people have shown their support to the teenager as a user commented, “NTA. Actually went down very similar for me. The kicker was when my new step brother took me aside when we were adults and suggested that I treat my dad better because he was a great dad. Not sure if he was ready for my verbal barrage but it sure felt great. He never brought it up again. LOL again NTA”
Another user wrote, “You’re a better person than I am. Not sure my barrage would’ve been verbal.” The third user stated, "NTA. Dad, Sally, and grandparents are all a******s and naive for thinking you would just get over growing up with a shitty dad. Serious reconciliation in these situation takes MAJOR effort on the parents' part. It doesn't just happen.”
“NTA 1000 times!!!!!! He was never involved in your life. He would be gone for months at a time. Your mom DIED and he still didn't step up. Has your dad even tried to make it up to you by spending time WITH YOU? Or is he just ‘Oh look at me I'm such a great dad to Sally's kids, let's all pretend we are family now!’ I hope this is fake. If not, freaking go no contact as soon as you can. Your life would be better off without all these jerks who think that a lifetime of neglect is no big deal. WTF Sending you hugs. So so many hugs,” another user added.
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