'Truth hurts': Internet rallies behind man who blamed 'lazy and narcissistic' sister for parents' split
A man's revelation that he told his sister that she was the cause of their parents' divorce has prompted serious discussion on the internet. The scenario was posted by Original Poster (OP) u/Limp-Consequence-670 in the popular Reddit group 'Am I The A**hole?', where it received more than 6K upvotes and close to 1000 comments.
In a Reddit post titled "AITA for telling my sister she's the reason our parents are divorcing," a man, 24, started off by writing, "About a month ago, my parents (55 F, 57 M) announced they were getting divorced. This has been quite a shock to most people as they seemed to be having issues out of the ordinary. However, I have been the one privy to the information of why they are divorcing."
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'She's just a lazy narcissist'
OP continued, "It's because of my sister 'Anne' (26 F). Anne is a deadbeat. She has never worked more than 14 hours a week since getting expelled from college for multiple acts of cheating and code of conduct violations 5 years ago. All she does is sit at home most days watching TV or going over to her loser boyfriend's house to get high. She feels no need to support herself and expects my parents to carry her through life. She's been in therapy since she was 14 but cannot keep one for more than a year because she gets dropped as a client due to her lying and inability to show up to appointments. My parents have spent over a decade trying to get some mental issue pinned down for Anne and all they've gotten is she's just a lazy narcissist."
The man went on, "Last year my Mom decided enough was enough and planned to kick Anne to the curb and wash her hands of her. Dad disagreed, and in the end, the two's marriage got torn apart. I know because both have come to me basically admitting that if Anne was not a factor divorce would not even be a consideration." "I don't get along with Anne for a variety of reasons. She has always been a bully and owes me a large sum of money at the moment. The thing that boils my blood though is that she's oblivious to the situation between our parents, or just doesn't care. She had a literal tantrum when the possibility of the house being sold came up because she didn't want to have to move to an apartment with my dad," he added.
'She's driven her parents to get a divorce'
He continued, "Last night I found myself at my parent's house and had the misfortune of talking to Anne. Anne mentioned that she's getting really sick of my mom's 'melodramatic sh*t' and not just leaving the house to her and my dad. Something struck me at that moment and I just asked Anne if she really does not care that she's such a selfish, garbage, waste of space human that she's driven her parents to get a divorce. I elaborated, and told her the full truth that she is in fact the only reason they are getting a divorce because mom's finally realized that there is no hope Anne will ever grow up."
"The sh*tstorm this caused was massive. Anne acted as if I sold her out to the Romans and my parents argued between 'she deserves to know' and 'we told you that in confidence.'" He added. OP concluded the post saying, "Because Anne cannot keep her mouth shut either, the entire extended family has begun to hear too. I want to know before opinions start forming outside the inner circle if I am the a**hole here."
'Daddy's girl need to have reality check'
Amost a 1000 people left comments on the post, with all of them supporting the OP. One user commented, "NTA. Daddy's girl need to have reality check," while another agreed saying, "Correct, and let's be honest here... The sister isn't the reason they are getting divorced, it's the father's coddling and inability to hold her accountable whilst the mother has had enough. If Dad grew a pair and supported his wife, they probably wouldn't be divorcing."
'She’ll never take responsibility'
A third user said, "If she’s truly a narcissist, she’ll never take responsibility for it because narcissists think they walk on water and don’t ever do anything wrong. Everything is always someone else’s fault. OP is definitely NTA."
'She needs to stop being a leech'
Another frustrated user wrote, "NTA at all! Truth hurts ? Sometimes the truth is the only thing that will snap a person out of it. She needs to stop being a leech, I get where your dad is coming from, as a daddy’s girl myself I know my dad would’ve probably been the same way as parents we do EVERYTHING in our power to love, protect, and support our children and a lot of times the line between that and straight up enabling gets blurred. And I get where your mom is coming from clearly pushing your sister out on her ass and forcing her to grow up is the only solution left that has hope. I can see where this caused their split but yeah your sister needed to know. Your extended family’s opinion doesn’t really matter either if they aren’t stepping in with solutions they don’t matter. Coddling her is how it got this bad, continuing to do so is just ridiculous."
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