Internet asks woman to ‘RUN’ after fiance exchanged her wedding dress with one his mom chose for her
A woman has gotten an immense amount of support online after she shared her wedding plan, which involved her “intrusive” would-be mother-in-law. The 28-year-old woman, who used a throwaway account on Reddit, named u/Throwaway9757657, posted, “AITA for my reaction when I learned that my fiance returned my wedding dress and replaced it with the one his mom picked for me?”
Describing more about it, she wrote, “My fiance M33, and I are getting married in December. His mom is the intrusive type but she's nice overall and we....somewhat get along. I hate to admit that wedding planning has been an absolute nightmare. His mom wasn't willing to agree on most things, and my fiance said that since he's her only son then I should respect and appreciate this ‘vision’ she has for the wedding and how it should be.”
ALSO READ
Internet advices woman to leave boyfriend after his family asks her to undergo a 'sexist' test
‘I thought the dress was somewhat creepy’
The woman said that as the shopping for her wedding dress began, her fiance’s mother also decided to tag along. She stated, “I took her with me and my mom and friends. I was so lucky to have found what I was looking for. but she picked a dress that she liked so much and said that ‘she always pictured her son's bride in it’ mom and friends thought this line was creepy."
“I thought the dress was somewhat creepy and toooootally not my type. I apologized and thanked her for her ‘vision’ but told her that I'd already decided on a dress that I had ‘envisioned’ myself wearing at my wedding! She got all pissy because of it apparently, then must've told my fiance because, he came home in the evening ranting about how I made his mom upset and ‘turned down’ her help in choosing the wedding dress,” she added.
‘They were different’
u/Throwaway9757657 also noted that her fiance “got upset and said that this attitude of mine isn't working on him or his mom. He said that I should consider the dress his mom wanted me to buy especially knowing that ‘both dresses weren't that much different anyway’ like she said but I told him yes they were different...like so much different.”
She further explained, “Yesterday I came home and found out that he had returned my wedding dress and replaced it with the one his mom wanted. I called him and he was straightforward about what he did and why he did it. I lost it and started screaming at him. He asked me to calm down and really give this dress ‘a chance’. I refused to even listen I screamed at him without giving him a chance to speak.”
The woman then mentioned that her mother “is livid and has been wanting to go scream at him and his mom but my dad said that this isn't worth ruining my relationship with my inlaws. He suggested I wisen up and ‘go with the flow’ but is it too much for me to be able to pick my own wedding dress without being guilted about it just to keep the peace?,” before adding, “AITA for my reaction?”
‘I AM paying for the dress obviously’
In an update, the woman also clarified that “the dress she picked wasn't all too crazy but just wasn't my type, this issue started during wedding planning and there were other things...like way too many things we didn't agree on. but this ‘vision’ has been there for...quite a while, I AM paying for the dress obviously, and my fiance's dad is deceased. also, his mom suffered from multiple health conditions. Has no daughters but one only son.”
People in the comment section supported u/Throwaway9757657 and a user wrote, “Hand him the ring back... Say ‘I hope you get the wedding you and your mom have always hoped for.’ Walk away. NTA.” The second one commented, “NTA. It's good that this is happening now. This is not a dynamic that is going to change with either your fiancé or his mother. RUN.”
“NTA. Maybe his mum could wear it to the wedding and stand in for you,” the third user said. The fourth one added, “Do you plan on having kids? Now imagine your MIL disagreeing with something you want to do for those children, and how your mommas boy fiancé will side with her instead of you. NTA. Im sorry, but leave while you can.”
This article contains remarks made on the internet by individual people and organizations. MEAWW cannot confirm them independently and does not support claims or opinions being made online.