Internet backs man who was slammed by lover for getting food from an unlikely source
Netizens came in full support of a man who accepted food from his ex-wife, which made his fiancee uncomfortable. The scenario was discussed on the AITA forum on Reddit. It was narrated by a user named u/TA_Lunch. The discussion gathered almost 2100 views and more than 700 comments.
AITA discussions have become one of the most popular aspects of Reddit in recent times. The post claims, "My Ex-wife is half Jordanian and half British. Both my Fiancée and I are British. My Ex and I share 3 children. There's a dish that my Ex makes which is a family recipe from the Jordanian side of her family and it is delicious."
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What does the post state?
The post also claims, "She doesn't share the recipe with anyone. I love it; it's probably my favorite dish. Whenever my Ex would make it, she would make a big batch and freeze some individually for me to take to work when we were together. Since we split, she would still freeze individual portions and would occasionally offer them to me as she knew I like the dish." It also claimed, My Fiancée doesn't cook. I am the cook in our house. She has no idea of what food we keep in the cupboards or the fridge or freezer. If it were up to her, we would eat out regularly. She has mentioned on occasion that she doesn't like it when I accept food from my Ex and that it makes her feel uncomfortable. I told her that I would stop accepting the food from my ex."
Further, it noted, "When my EX dropped the children off at the weekend, she came to me with a bag of food. Her freezer had broken, and these meals were still frozen solid she wanted to know if I wanted any of the meals. Anything that I wasn't going to take, she was going to drop off at her mum's for her. I did take some of the meals, especially that dish that I love. When my Fiancée found out I had taken food from my Ex, she went mad. Telling me that I didn't love them, that I loved my Ex, that I was yet again picking my Ex over her - about a year ago, I dropped dinner plans with her to go to the hospital to collect the children after they had been in a car crash with my Ex."
It also claimed, "My Ex was having to stay in overnight and had asked me to go if I could take the children; my Fiancée was upset that I hadn't taken her feelings into consideration and feels like I am doing it again. My Fiancée is currently not talking to me and is staying at her sister’s. The last message I got from her is that she is reconsidering our relationship because she’s fed up of me not putting her first. I think I’m done; of course, my children will always come first. AITA for accepting food from my Ex?."
'You’re NTA'
The Internet had different reactions to the post. A user said, " Nta you sound like you and ex Co parent perfectly. Which requires some form of friendship. Your current partner sounds too insecure, and not mature enough to have a relationship with you. You have kids. Ex will always be in the picture. This isn't about food. This is about your friendship and ect with the ex." Another added, "Seriously. OP has elaborated that fiancée was also pissed OP helped the kids get a card and flowers for their mom on Mother's day but nothing for her. She's not even their stepmom yet! He needs to kick this woman to the curb. It will only get worse from here." Another added, "Absolutely this. You’re NTA. You enjoy a dish that only your ex makes and she takes that in to consideration when she cooks it. You share children in a kind, loving coparenting situation."
Another said, "You want a partner who also wants to have a cordial relationship NOT competition with the mother of your children. Partners support each other and so many people don’t realize how stressful it is to have a tense, hateful coparenting relationship. Someone who thinks that’s how it should be over what you are currently trying to create, has skewed vision and needs to work on her own feelings." "Agreed. NTA. You and your ex aren't following the narrative your fiancé wants. Also when there are kids involved, they are always number one. If this is a problem, sounds like the relationship will always struggle.," read a comment. "NTA, your fiancé is insecure to the point that she wants you to be a bad father to make her feel better. If the food is what makes you see this reality, so be it. You should have dumped her when she suggested that you not go get your children from the hospital after they were in an accident," said another.
Another claimed, "Seriously, I hope this will be the end of this relationship, for OPs sake and the kids as well. My dad was in a relationship with a woman who was like this. She'd get mad at him for wanting to spend time with me, basically have temper tantrums to the point where I had to be the adult in the situation, at the age of 12. She went from being nice to me to blatantly resenting me for existing, which increased a lot when she moved into our house. Luckily my dad eventually ended things with her, and I remember the last thing she said to me while leaving was; "are you happy?? You got what you wanted right??" Lol, no yeah, all that shit I went through with her in my life is exactly what i wanted. Safe to say after that whole ordeal me and my dad still aren't as close as we used to be (which was pretty damn close), and it for sure damaged me in a lot of ways. Currently working on our relationship with my psychologists help, but it's definitely gonna take a lot to gain the trust back. Edit: NTA btw, but make sure you make it very clear to your kids that they will always be first, and please don't let this woman ruin their trust in you."
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