Ariana Grande, Selena Gomez, Demi Lovato: The loneliness of celebrity is becoming all too real and fans need to rally

2018 has proved to us that pop stars have a rocky life and we intentionally or unintentionally contribute to their mental well-being


                            Ariana Grande, Selena Gomez, Demi Lovato: The loneliness of celebrity is becoming all too real and fans need to rally

Hardly 24 hours have passed since news of Ariana Grande's break up with Pete Davidson was announced, and the internet is already abuzz with speculations and memes on their whirlwind romance.

Social media, a dark abyss where the seed of depression often lurks, easily fits in the palm of our hands, making it convenient to be either a recipient, contributor or giver of information, sometimes unwanted and uncalled for.  

Pete Davison and Ariana Grande attend the 2018 MTV Video Music Awards at Radio City Music Hall on August 20, 2018 in New York City.
Pete Davison and Ariana Grande attend the 2018 MTV Video Music Awards at Radio City Music Hall on August 20, 2018 in New York City.

While you may think that pop stars you see on TV, be it Ariana Grande, Selena Gomez or Demi Lovato have a luxurious and glamorous life (which to an extent they do), fans often forget that they are people too. The same species that you or your friends are: hurt with the same weapons and words as you do. Imagine going through the death of your beloved and then breaking up an engagement, how would you feel if you saw some ten thousand memes about it on social media?

NO SALES, free for editorial use. In this handout provided by 'One Love Manchester' benefit concert (L) Mac Miller and Ariana Grande perform on stage on June 4, 2017 in Manchester, England. Donate at www.redcross.org.uk/love
NO SALES, free for editorial use. In this handout provided by 'One Love Manchester' benefit concert (L) Mac Miller and Ariana Grande perform on stage on June 4, 2017 in Manchester, England. Donate at www.redcross.org.uk/love

Pop stars suffering from depression is not unheard of, but with the alarming rate to which the internet takes over the issue and manipulates it to fit into their humor page, or memes, or even their headlines, makes me question if we should be worried about the mental health of the stars?

Recording artist Demi Lovato attends the 2018 Billboard Music Awards at MGM Grand Garden Arena on May 20, 2018 in Las Vegas, Nevada.
Recording artist Demi Lovato attends the 2018 Billboard Music Awards at MGM Grand Garden Arena on May 20, 2018 in Las Vegas, Nevada.

On July 24, Lovato, one of the favorite Disney stars, was rushed to hospital after a drug overdose. If you follow the 'Skyscraper' singer, you know that she has been open about her struggles with cocaine and Oxycontin in the past, even talking about it on Instagram posts. It is a good practice to be able to talk about drugs and depression openly, but among her millions of fans who showed support, there were only her few "friends" who were around when she overdosed in her Hollywood Hills home. 

The scene, at that time, of the 25-year-old songstress was that she was on a "binger" with "friends" and they had a Narcan, an emergency medication to reverse opioid overdose, in their hands just in case. As People reported that those close to Lovato had a “strong suspicion” something like this may happen. And when it did, her "friends" administered Narcan themselves to revive her. 

She was immediately rushed to the hospital and then we know the rest; she was hospitalized for weeks, and is now in rehab. The same publication reported a source saying that "the people she has been hanging around lately aren’t her real friends — they don’t have her best interests at heart. She’s pushed her true friends away.”

Months down the line, the same diva who had initially celebrated five years of sobriety is working towards her road to recovery. On August 6, she took to Instagram to thank her fans, “The love you all have shown me will never be forgotten and I look forward to the day where I can say I came out of this on the other side.”



 

Few months later after Demi's overdose, another Disney favorite, who also happens to be the most-followed celebrity on Instagram, had a mental breakdown and is currently seeking help in a rehab. Selena Gomez has had a long history of health struggles beginning with her lupus diagnosis in 2014.

In 2016, the 'Back to You' singer entered rehab facility for anxiety and depression and in the summer of 2017, she announced that she received a kidney transplant from her best friend, Francia Raisa, because of complications from lupus.

However, the "ultimate gift" was not enough to sustain her mental well-being as she checked into a mental health facility earlier this year and went ballistic on social media, leaving a rather bizarre message to Jennifer Lopez on Instagram. All these actions were reportedly triggered when her longtime on-again-off-again boyfriend, Justin Bieber, suddenly announced his engagement to Hailey Baldwin. 

Selena Gomez announced her social media hiatus, telling her fans, “Kindness and encouragement only for a bit! Just remember- negative comments can hurt anybody’s feelings. Obvi.”



 

The recent news of the star reports the she became “despondent and emotional” over a low white blood cell count, and is currently hospitalized.

Meanwhile tabloids and social media pages are doing the rounds of speculating on her personal life and her relationship issues with the 'Baby' singer.

Which makes me question that what is it about the stars that make us curious about their downfall? It may have something similar to do with how we promptly connect rags to riches story with the 'illuminati' club or something like that.

We are constantly on the lookout for something extraordinary, that if we cannot find it in our lives, we look at the external milieu which includes pop stars and celebrities.

High on the pedestal and as spotlight brims on them, they are often made easy scapegoats for conspiracy theories and massive speculations given that millions are interested to know what they are up to. With personal space being rare and few genuine people to understand them, drugs and alcohol have frequently featured in the lifestyles of so many performers. 

Studies have shown that people working in the arts are fifth most likely to suffer from depression. With artists being the sensitive ones among the lot, where every heartache is turned into lyrics or tunes or poetry or a painting, we can only imagine the intensity of pain that all the hate that lurks in social media may cause. Added to that, the industry breeds fierce competition and a challenge to always be on top of the game.

But at the end of the day, nothing is more paramount and precious than life, so let the living live. Let others live the way you want to live, if they have got it better, does not mean you don't have it better than someone else. You do. 

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