'You probably deserved it': Man refuses to apologize to former classmate he used to bully at the age of 5
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA: A 22-year-old man recently denied apologizing to a former classmate he used to bully at the age of 5. The 22-year-old uploaded a post on Reddit, explaining the scenario when his former classmate Drew Smith, who got bullied, confronted him. The user took Reddit and questioned "AITA for not apologizing to the person I used to "bully"? and further, he explained the whole scenario when Smith met him, but he could not recognize him.
However, the user doesn't support bullying and there is never a justification for claiming that a victim of bullying deserved it, and the user sincerely regrets any hurt my previous remark may have caused or any implication it may have given.
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"AITA for not apologizing to the person I used to "bully"?
The user wrote I [22M] am not a bully. I had friends growing up who were bullied. I saw how bad it could be on someone and never wanted to be the cause of that. I'll try to portray the incident as best I can. I was visiting my parents and went into town to run a few errands," the user wrote on Reddit.
He further added "In town, I was approached by a man I didn't recognize. He was initially friendly and greeted me with, "Hey, are you [my name]?" Me: "Yeah, I am. Do we know each other?"
Drew: "I'm Drew Smith. We used to go to school together." Despite him saying otherwise, I couldn't recall anyone by that name. I responded, "Hey, I'm really sorry, man, but I don't think I recognize you at all."
I then started chuckling a bit out of embarrassment since I didn't know how else to react. I guess Drew didn't like that very much since his whole demeanor changed pretty quickly."
Chilling question by Drew
Then Drew asked a few chilling questions to the 22-year-old, "He then asked me much more coldly, "Ohh, then I guess you also don't remember". He went on and added, "how you used to treat me like shit when we were kids, huh?" That completely caught me off guard, and I couldn't respond with anything besides a confused, "What?"
Drew proposed many allegations that were imposed by the user. The user wrote, "Drew then started going off on me, claiming that I would purposefully exclude him when we were kids. I had convinced others to do the same and that teachers had to forcefully assign him during group projects because no one would willingly accept him. That no one would play with him during recess or after school, so he had no friends growing up, and it was all my fault. I was utterly shocked and denied it, stating I had never done that because I hadn't."
"I was afraid someone would call the cops"
"This just made him madder, and he started accusing more loudly, saying things like "Yes, you fucking did!" and "Why don't you just fucking admit it already and just apologize?" By this point, we were getting people's attention, and I was afraid someone would call the cops. I decided to leave, but felt like I needed to get a jab in and said, "Look, man, I'm sorry school was so shitty for you, but if you were anything like you are now, you probably deserved it." In hindsight, I really should have just walked away, but I was getting angry myself, and it felt good at the moment. Drew started yelling after me even louder, but luckily he didn't try to follow me......"
The 22-year-old then reckoned about a girl named Alex from kindergarten, who was Drew's cousin as well. However, he recalled that Drew annoyed Alex a lot, "such as pulling her hair or trying to touch her to annoy her." So the user stopped being friends with him almost immediately and had nothing to do with him, and everyone in the class did the same.