'That's what I call check-mate': Internet stunned by the drama that ensues after mom punishes unruly daughter
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA: Reddit is fully supporting a mother who removed her daughter's bedroom door when she was being unreasonable and rude. The scenario was discussed by the original poster (OP), u/The-Compliment-Fairy on Reddit's popular subreddit "Am I The A**hole." The post garnered more than 16,000 upvotes and 5,000 comments as Redditors rushed to give their opinions on the delicate situation.
In the Reddit post titled "AITA for removing my daughter’s bedroom door because she won’t stop slamming it?" OP, 40, said that she has three children, two boys and a girl. The daughter has her own room since she is the oldest and the only girl. The woman wrote, "Maggie is a great kid. She does her homework, helps with chores without too much complaint, doesn’t bug her little brothers (too) much."
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'It took a lot of self control not to start yelling'
She continued on the issue she was having with her daughter and wrote, "The issue is that she will not stop slamming her bedroom door. When she gets up to use the bathroom at night she slams her bedroom door on her way out and back in. When she gets up in the morning or goes to bed at night she slams it. Pretty much any time she enters or exits her room the door gets slammed. And it’s only her door, none of the other doors in the house. It shakes the walls and frequently wakes up everyone else in the house. Her brothers room shares a wall with hers and our bedroom is directly above theirs."
No amount of cajolling, scolding and politely asking her not to slam her door made any difference on the daughter's behavior even as she is warned that her action will have consequences. She added, "It all came to a head the other night when she got up to use the bathroom and all 4 of us were woken up by the slamming. I have to be up at 5am for work and I’ve had enough of the broken sleep and came downstairs and knocked on her door. She opened it and said WHAT?! with such attitude it took a lot of self control not to start yelling."
She continued, "I told her as calmly as I could that if she slammed that door one more time she was going to come home and find it gone. She proceeded to yell at me to leave her alone and then slammed it 5 times as hard as she could. Well the next day (Friday) she went to school and my husband and I both had the day off so we took the door off the frame and installed a curtain rod with a nice heavy curtain over the door instead. She came home and freaked the fuck out. She said we’re being emotionally abusive and taking away her right to privacy. She sulked all weekend and won’t talk to us now. My mother says I’m the AH because I overreacted but she doesn’t have to deal with the house shaking."
'That's what I call check-mate'
The post instantly became popular on the subreddit garnering more than 5,000 comments, with a majority of comments being on the mother's side, calling her NTA (Not The A**hole) and supporting her decision to teach her daughter to be more considerate to consider the consequences of her actions. One user wrote, "NTA. Interrupting everyone's sleep is unacceptable. You gave her plenty of opportunities to change her door slamming behavior and she didn't do it. Let her sulk it out for a set amount of time (let her know this amount. . 1 week. . 3 days. . whatever you choose), then return the door conditionally for a trial. If she can refrain from slamming it, she can keep it. If not, the door gets taken off again for even more time. Rinse and repeat until she no longer slams."
One user concurred with, "NTA - That's what I call "check-mate." You're teaching your kid a valuable lesson - actions have consequences. And she's even able to reverse this decision - if she "agrees" to not slam. Which, for some reason, she's won't agree to it? PS - the curtain was a great touch."
Further, a user also agreed with the mother but hoped the curtain was only a temporary measure. The user wrote, "This might be controversial but since you've replaced it with a fabric alternative I'm going with NTA. I do agree with what will no doubt be many comments about the importance of privacy but I do feel like this argument is satisfied with the use of the curtain. I will say though, that this should only be a temporary measure. She should get her door back in the not too distant future. Also, the second your sons or their friends start to try and enter her room uninvited then the door goes back on and you need to figure out a better solution."
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