'Don't be lazy and lots of sex': How Patrick Dempsey and Jillian Fink keep their 23-year marriage sizzling
Patrick Dempsey and his wife Jillian Fink, who were spotted at the 'Disenchanted' premiere, had almost parted ways for good until they tried again
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA: Patrick Dempsey and Jillian Fink were reportedly a sight to behold when they appeared together for the world premiere of ‘Disenchanted’ at the El Capitan Theatre in Los Angeles on Wednesday, November 16. The pair, who have been married for over two decades and share three children together, were seen posing for photographers during the event.
The 56-year-old ‘Grey's Anatomy’ star wore black double-breasted suit with pinstripes, which he paired with a light blue shirt and a pair of black shoes, as reported by The Daily Mail. First he posed alone on the red carpet before Fink joined him, looking ravishing in a black off-the-shoulder dress. The celebrity hairstylist and makeup artist reportedly completed her look by wearing a pair of black open-toe heels, a necklace with a big pendant and a bracelet. She kept her hair simple and open while sporting a clean and light makeup.
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While getting clicked, the couple apparently looked all happy and in love. However, their marriage has reportedly not always been a bed of roses. Dempsey and Fink knew each other since 1994 and tied the knot in 1999. It has been said that the two met for the first time when the ‘Made of Honor’ actor went to her salon. In 2002, the mother of 20-year-old daughter Talula, and 15-year-old twin boys Sullivan and Darby, had told PEOPLE about their first meeting, “I was shocked [when he came in for an appointment] but at the same time, I was happy because he was so cute.”
The two got married at a Maine farmhouse and it had been reported that after seeing Fink as his bride, Dempsey had “started crying”. Their love and commitment for each grew as they became parents to three children. The race car driver had once said about his children, “I’m constantly amazed by their insight and their observations. It’s fascinating and fun to come up with answers to their questions. And the questions are getting harder!”
However, things took a turn for the worse when Dempsey and Fink decided separate in 2015. In a statement shared at that time via TMZ, the couple said, “It is with careful consideration and mutual respect that we have decided to end our marriage. Our primary concern remains the well-being of our children, and we ask with profound gratitude that you respect our family's privacy at this very sensitive time.”
The duo, however, soon realized that they could not live without each other as they canceled their divorce plan and in 2016, Dempsey told PEOPLE, “Our marriage was not something I was prepared to let go of. I didn’t feel like we had done all the work. And we both wanted to do that work. That’s where it started.”
He continued, “It’s always destabilizing when you’re potentially breaking up a family or you have a big section of your life that’s ending. Everybody has their own path. Jill and I decided it was time to work on our issues and improve. We wanted to be role models for our kids like, okay, if you have differences, you can work them out.”
“You can only do one thing at a time and do it well. I [learned] to prioritize. Our union has to be the priority. I wasn’t prepared to give up on her and she wasn’t either. We both wanted to fight for it. You’ve got to keep at it. You’ve got to communicate, and stay open and not get lazy. And not give up. And lots of sex!” Dempsey concluded.