Internet slams mom over home renovation just months after daughter moved out for college
The Internet is bashing a woman after she knocked down her 18-year-old daughter's room just a few months after she moved out. The scenario was posted by Original Poster (OP) u/ArtisticConfidence22 in the popular Reddit group 'Am I The A**hole?', where it received more than 18K upvotes and close to 8K comments.
In a Reddit post titled "AITA for demolishing my daughter's room after she moved out?" the mother started off by saying, "My 18 yr old daughter, Meg, is in college. She moved in with her boyfriend a few months ago, which left her old bedroom empty." OP admitted breaking down Meg's bedroom walls to make room for a "spacious living room." "Her bedroom used to be right next to our tiny living room. To make our tiny living room into a normal sized living room, we knocked out my daughter's room's wall, refloored the space and fixed the walls. Now it looks like the bedroom was never there and we have a spacious living room," she said.
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'She accused us of wanting to get rid of her forever'
OP continued, "When my daughter came home to visit and saw that her room is gone, she made a huge deal about it. She got all emotional and said if we never wanted to let her move back, we should've just said so instead of completely demolishing her room." "I told her that if anything happens and she needs to move back, we will welcome her and she could sleep on the couch as long as she wants. But she accused us of wanting to get rid of her forever and for her to never visit us since we got rid of her room so fast, only a few months after she moved out and we should've waited longer," she added. She concluded by asking, "AITA for not waiting longer with the renovation?"
'The couch is not an adequate replacement'
Amost 8K people left comments on the post, with all of them calling OP the a**hole. One user commented, "Yeah, moving out for college is a major life change that is really hard to adjust to, and taking away her one space of familiarity without at least talking to her first was wrong. And no, the couch is not an adequate replacement for her room being gone in case that needed clarifying," while another agreed, saying, "When my kids moved out, I first asked if they were coming back and then asked if I could use their room. If OP didn't do that first, then of course her daughter is going to feel like she's been kicked out! She's only 18, and OP just removed her safety net. YTA."
'They wonder why I don’t call often'
One user who went through a similar experience as Meg, said, "My dad and stepmom did this to me in college. Literally the day I left, the room was converted to a guest room without warning. Took it as my sign to leave as soon as college was done. Now they wonder why I don’t call often. YTA."
'A chance to come say bye to her room'
Another user stated, "At least give her a chance to come say bye to her room. When I came home for Christmas freshman year, my mom told me she was going to repaint my room and put some furniture there to use it as a craft/sewing room. I didn’t throw a fit or get mad, just said thanks for warning me. So I had the entire break to pack my stuff up into the closets, reminisce, and get some closure on the room that I spent my entire formative years living in."
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