Internet backs woman for banning sister from her apartment after she and her BF offered to 'feed cats'
Siblings fight and that is normal but what do you do if your sibling decides to do something disgusting in your bed? This is exactly what a Reddit user faced, and she decided to ban her sister and her boyfriend from her apartment after that. The poster, u/Independent-Time7659, detailed the scenario in a post she shared on Reddit's popular 'AITA' forum which has garnered over 15,000 upvotes and more than 3,000 comments.
In the Reddit post titled 'AITA for banning my sister and her boyfriend from my apartment after they had sex in my bed?, the 28-year-old woman said her 19-year-old sister offered to feed her cats while she was away for an overseas business trip. The woman wrote, "I told her she was welcome to stay there while I was gone since she lives in a dorm."
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'My boyfriend and I were using the bed last night'
Writing about what took place, the woman wrote, "Anyway the day I got home, my sister was there with her boyfriend. That was fine, he's always seemed like a cool guy, but one thing I noticed was that my sheets were still in my washer."
She continued, "I didn't think much of it, I just assumed my sister waited to wash them, since she was using my bed while she was there. But she tells me, sorry, my boyfriend and I were "using" the bed last night."
After hearing her sister's confession, the woman wrote, "That grossed me out. I don't think I'm being unreasonable to not want people screwing in my bed. My sister told me to relax, and said I was being a prude American (her boyfriend is from Ireland). She said that we (meaning Americans) stigmatize sex, and that she washed the sheets so it's fine. I said no it's not and told her to get out. She isn't welcome there anymore." She concluded the post with, "Our mother has been reaming me via text, saying Imm overreacting."
'Have respect for people's houses'
The woman found support online as a person wrote, "NTA. I'm from Ireland, and i wouldn't be all 'top of the morning to ya' if i came home and someones in my bed having sex. However, in saying that, i have stayed in multiple hotels, airbnbs and hostels, and if you think you haven't slept in a bed that someone had sex in before......"
Another user wrote, "NTA. I can't really understand these people that are saying YTA. I don't want other people screwing in my bed. I don't want somebody jizz bombing my sister on my bed. That's just nasty. For all of those who are talking about hotel beds, that's nothing but a straw man argument. Hotel beds ARE NOT MY OWN PERSONAL BED. I'm really not sure how that is so hard to understand. I wonder if your mom would be okay with your sister and her boyfriend coming over to her house today and getting busy for a couple of hours on her bed. Let's see how she likes that."
Another person, who supported the woman, wrote, "It's reasonable for you to feel uncomfortable with your sister and her boyfriend using your bed without your consent. Your sister's reaction is dismissive and not acceptable. It's okay for you to not want her to stay at your place again. It's important to prioritize your own feelings and boundaries, even if others may not agree with them. NTA."
A fourth chimed in, "NTA. It’s your home, you’re allowed to have boundaries. If your sister can’t or won’t respect that- then it says more about her than it does you. Also lol to people in the comments trying to compare this to sleeping in hotels, or cruises or dumb s**t like that. It’s not even close, this is OP’s HOME. That he pays for, and lives in and has made his own space. Not his sister I feel like it’s a known rule that she shouldn’t have even brought her bf over WITHOUT OP’s permission because it’s rude af to just invite someone into someone else’s home without their knowledge, when they’re not even home. whether he knows him or not. Common sense about common courtesy. Have respect for peoples houses."
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