Internet sides with brother's reason for refusing to let sister's BF move into her home
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA: In a recent popular Reddit thread, a man asked users to comment on a particularly dicey family situation. The man was a property owner and his sister lived in the house owned by him. When his sister's boyfriend wanted to move in with her, he refused to allow it. He had a few good reasons behind his refusal but primary among them was the fact that his sister's boyfriend used drugs and had been in prison. The man in his Reddit post explained his sister's dating history and how she usually falls for 'abusive men' that included her current boyfriend.
The post gained a lot of attention from the users, garnering 499 comments within nineteen hours. The man, with the handle u/tpisx12, wondered, "AITA for telling my sister her boyfriend can't move into her home because I own it?"
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'She's had a very tough life'
The user then explained the whole scenario. "My (41M) sister (52F) is the eldest of our mom's 9 children. She has always been the most important person in my life, and I owe her so much. She's had a very tough life but despite this never fails to be the nicest and most giving person. In 2016, myself and 2 of my brothers bought her a small house. It was a bit of a fixer upper, and we spent a year on/off renovating it into a dream house for her."
'She has a history of dating/marrying abusive men'
The user further added about his sister, and about her current dating history, "She lives there now with her youngest 2 children (13M/15F) and our autistic brother (43M). She has been dating her boyfriend for around 10 months. None of our family like this man and he is a massive loser. He is an old friend of one of our brothers that OD'd and died almost a decade ago. This man is also an addict, spent time in prison, and is a deadbeat dad to his daughters. We all want her to end things with him, but she seems very in love. We don't just blindly hate the man but are actually concerned with her having him in her life. She is 10+ years sober and his influence could cause her to relapse, she has a history of dating/marrying abusive men, and most importantly I don't want him around my niece/nephew and her grandkids."
The user continued by saying that her boyfriend's move-in "was a bad idea" and wrote, "On Saturday, my sister told me that he was going to move in with her because he is getting kicked out of his apartment (they won't let him renew his lease). I instinctively told her that it was a bad idea and that I see things ending badly. She blew me off and changed the subject, so I let it go for the moment. I texted her youngest son later and asked him what he thought and if he was okay with it. He essentially said no and that he did not like the guy."
'He cannot move in with her'
The user went on and added, "I also contacted my other brothers that I co-bought the house with, and they were also unhappy she was inviting him to move in. They agreed that I could tell her as owners of the house that he cannot move in with her. I told her this yesterday and she was unhappy and told me I was overstepping and interfering with her life."
'Told her we just wanted to protect her and her kids'
The user continued by saying the he wanted to "protect her", writing, "I gave her my reasons and told her we just wanted to protect her and her kids. She asked me how I would stop her from moving him in and I threatened that I would call CPS and tell them she was allowing an addict to live with her children. For good measure, my cousin and I went to where her boyfriend drinks and told him he wasn't going to be moving in."
The user went on and added, "My younger sister called me last night to berate me for banning this man from moving in and told me I was using the excuse of protecting our [older] sister to actually control her life. She thinks me and my brothers are asses for using something nice we did for her as a tool now to interfere with her life."
'My younger sister has only met the boyfriend once'
The user last mentioned, "My younger sister has only met the boyfriend once, whereas my brothers and I have known him for years and know what he is like. She is really only going of information our sister told her. AITA?"
'Children are not safe with addicts'
As soon as the post was online, it gained a lot of comments from the users, and the user supported the brother and also flagged him "Not An A** hole." One of the users wrote, "If she brings an addict into the home, it puts her children at risk. She moves in with an addict and doesn't relapse? Chances are she probably has a history with CPS already, due to her own addiction. Addiction is not a game and those children are not safe with two addicts." Another user wrote, "She has two choices. Accept your decision or move out and pay her own way if she must be with him. NTA"
The third user wrote, "NTA- you own the house and decide who can live there. You're not stopping her from seeing this person. You just don't want him to live in your house. If she doesn't like that, she's free to find other accommodations and live with him there."
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