Internet applauds man who called 'boy mom' sister 'toxic' over outrageous parenting preference
A Reddit user's revelation that he called his sister stupid and toxic for saying it is easier to parent boys has caused controversy among netizens. The scenario was posted by Original Poster (OP) u/lavender_sky_11 in the popular Reddit group 'Am I The A**hole?', where it received close to 5K upvotes and more than 1000 comments.
In the Reddit post titled, "AITA for telling my sister she is stupid and toxic for comparing boy/ girl parenting," the man, 33, started off by writing, "I am a single dad to my daughter (f15). She's my buddy and I honestly love her so much. My sister (f38) has 3 boys and has made being a boy mom her entire personality. She always goes on about how she loves being a boy mom and how raising boys is so much easier than having a girl. I usually just ignore it."
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"My daughter is a huge Taylor Swift fan and I took her to the opener night of the Eras tour. I'm not a Taylor swift fan honestly but it was really fun seeing my daughter have so much fun and just overall being so happy," he added.
'She feels bad for me'
OP continued, "Last night I was over at my mom’s and my daughter pretty much only wanted to talk about the concert. My sister happened to be there too. My daughter ended up talking about having to wait about an hour to get merch. My sister laughed and ended up going on a rant saying how she's so glad she doesn't have a daughter and how easy it is raising boys compared to girls and even went as far as to say she feels bad for me having to be a girl dad. My daughter didn't want to talk anymore and was clearly upset by my sister's words."
"That was very upsetting to me. I told my sister she was so wrong to say those things, especially in front of my daughter. And that she's toxic and honestly stupid for thinking raising boys is easier than raising girls. I told her she needs to find a new personality outside of being a boy mom. She ended up leaving while calling me the biggest AH," he added. OP concluded his post by saying, "My mom also accused me of being rude and basically an AH because my sister just loves her boys and I shouldn't judge her for thinking girls would be more difficult to raise. So AITA?"
AITA for telling my sister she is stupid and toxic for comparing boy/ girl parenting
by u/lavender_sky_11 in AmItheAsshole
'She 100% wanted a girl'
More than a thousand people left comments on the post, with all of them supporting the OP. One user who theorized on the sister's actions said, "NTA. It sounds like your sister is projecting. If she had 3 kids on purpose, she 100% wanted a girl and just never got one. So, now that she’s done having kids, she’s using her anti-girl rhetoric and boy-mom perspective as a coping strategy. That’s just a guess, though. Either way, it’s super weird of her to hyperfixate on the gender of her children that much, and just plain rude to impose that on your daughter. Good for you for standing up for her."
'Sister is being a sexist'
Another agreed, saying, "NTA and sister is being a sexist. I'm a boy mom. Guess what? We... wait in line for merch...just like girl parents! go to concerts that are expensive...just like girl parents! have to deal with cranky, irritable, emotional kids...just like girl parents! pay a lot of money for our kids' passions...just like girl parents! Either gender has its challenges because being a parent is challenging. Sis gets no medals for being a boy mom, just like you get none for being a girl dad (although you do for being a single dad and all parents of teens get all the medals). NTA. Sis deserved to be called on it, especially as she was heckling your daughter. If mom doesn't see that, she's a little toxic, too."
'Gender is irrelevant'
A third said, "NTA. She basically laughed at your daughter's personality and interests. You weren't rude because she loves her boys, you were rude because she insulted your daughter. IN FRONT OF HER! And you're right. Boys aren't easier. Gender. Is. Irrelevant. Children are individuals."
'You are a saint'
A user praised the OP saying, "This post reminded me of how many Jonas Brothers and Taylor Swift concerts I dragged my dad to when I was in middle school and high school where the only songs he knew were the covers. OP, you are a saint and your daughter will remember that night forever and how lucky she is to have a dad who will brave the Swifties for her."
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