'His circus, his monkeys': Internet hails woman who asked brother to pay for $30K engagement ring
The Internet went frenzy when a woman asked her brother to pay the equivalent of an engagement ring worth $30,000 as reimbursement, as his kids flushed the ring. The user explained the whole situation on Reddit, and the post gained a lot of attention from the other users, as it garnered 2.9 thousand comments in twenty-four hours.
The user took the platform group 'Am I the A** hole,' and wrote, "AITA for asking my brother to pay $30,000 for my engagement ring?" The user then continued, "I hosted a family dinner over the weekend. My brother brought my nephews (4 and 8) over as well.
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The user then wrote,"I used to wear my engagement ring all the time, but lately I keep it in my walk in closet and mainly wear it for special occasions. While I was cleaning up the dinner table, my nephews went to go play while the adults were still in the outdoor patio/outdoor kitchen area. My brother was not supervising his kids."
'Flushed my ring'
The user continued to explain the whole situation and wrote, "During this time, my nephews went into the master bedroom without anyone knowing and started playing with everything. Including my engagement ring. When we came to look for them, they paniced because they know they aren't supposed to be upstairs, ran into the master bathroom and flushed my ring."
'He has refused to repay the cost of my ring'
The user then explained how his brother reacted and wrote, "We called a plumber in case it was somehow in the u trap of the toilet and not actually gone. But nope. Unfortunately it was gone for good. We still had the original receipt, so I called my brother. I emailed him a scanned copy as proof of the cost and asked him to reimburse me for the ring my nephew flushed. Immediately he started calling me an asshole because we were family and he was just a child. He has refused to repay the cost of my ring. I told him I will be taking him to court for this and now my entire family is blowing up my phone saying family shouldn't sue each other and just let it go."
The user then added all the edits, and wrote, "Edit: No, the ring was not insured. I found out the day after my nephew flushed it. My husband says he forgot and in the end never actually insured it."
"Edit 2: My brother says he does not have the money to repay even $100 per month and has refused any kind of repayment plan. He said I live in a nice enough house and if I want a replacement, I should just sell my car."
"Edit 3: My brother, to this day, has not truly apologized. It was a Canadian sorry. Sorry, not sorry. He said kids will do what is normal for kids, and they shouldn't be held responsible for a ring. They were supposed to supervise their kids outdoors with the rest of the family while I was busy cleaning up."
"Edit 4: I don't believe for a second my brother and his wife cannot pay for the cost of my engagement ring. They don't make anything near my husband but they have a combined income of around 250k. They don't pay rent or anything because my parents gifted them their old house valued at 3.5 million in Toronto, ON, CA back when I bought my parents a new home years ago. There is no mortgage on the home my brother lives in. The only things my brother and his wife would have to pay for is the cost of raising their children, normal bills, and food. I feel so distraught because my ring holds great sentimental value. I've already been speaking with my husband's family lawyer, but at this point, I'm ready to hire a PI to find out if they really don't have the money."
'Choices have consequences'
As soon as the post went online, the users supported the woman. As one of the users wrote, "NTA. His circus, his monkeys. He wasn't watching them, that's on him. 100% he should replace your ring. As for all the family who are blowing up at you, it's easy, when it didn't happen to them, to preach forgiveness. Ignore them. Also, 8/4 are more than old enough to know better. My 3yo knows not to touch someone else's things in their home without asking. Choices have consequences, and sometimes those consequences are expensive! Sorry this happened to you."
The second user wrote, "Bingo! They literally ran off, because they knew there would be consequences. NTA - and unfortunately brother is responsible for the fact that his kids picked the plan with the most finically expansive consequences. Also, fiancé is wildly irresponsible for not insuring a $30,000 ring.. Unless that money is no big deal which is seems here is not the case."
The last user slammed the carelessness of his brother's behavior and wrote, "It does. I think from the Canadian sorry not sorry reference OP is a Canuck and so am I. My wife's rings were around 6k total. I got a nice watch years later. I called and asked and it was 100 a month to insure (I can't remember if that was for both or individually). But we passed at that insane price. But we also recognize we might get burned if we invite over some poorly behaved and unsupervised kids. NTA."
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