'Her mom knows how she is': Internet backs woman's 'cruel' comment about sister's 9-year-old daughter
A woman who revealed that her stepsister's daughter, 9, was a mean person has received immense support on the Internet. In a post uploaded to the Reddit group "Am I The A** Hole," the woman wondered, "AITA for telling my stepsister I'm not surprised her child doesn't get invited to parties?"
The user then explained, "My stepsister, Micah, and I have daughters a year apart. Micah's daughter Gemma is 9, and my daughter Serena is 8. Gemma has had behavior issues since I can remember. When she was younger she had constant tantrums, couldn't sit still, and would vandalise anything she could get hold of."
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'She's just not nice'
"As she got older, her lack of manners and destructive behaviour made her nearly impossible to be around, and besides that, she was really mean," the woman continued. "She told my daughter that her modelling campaign photos were ugly, she calls people stupid constantly, teased my mother's dogs to the point she isn't allowed near them anymore, she's just not nice."
She then recounted, "The other day, me and Micah were at our parents' house, and my stepdad mentioned Serena's birthday, and that she was having a small party (4 girls from her class for a shopping/spa experience and sleepover). Micah asked me if I was planning to invite Gemma (previous years Serena had large, so we invited Gemma as a courtesy). I said no, because Serena is having a small party for her friends this year and since the girls are not close I was not going to force her to invite Gemma."
"Micah said I was teaching Serena to exclude people, to which I said that not being friends with someone isn't excluding them. This conversation went back and forth for nearly ten minutes, and I was getting fed up of trying to be diplomatic, because I know for a fact that Micah is aware of what Gemma is like (she complains often) so I didn't see why we were skirting around the obvious," the post added.
'Gemma is not kind'
The user then revealed Gemma is not kind to people and wrote, "Then Micah said that I should show some compassion since Serena's party might be the only party/play date Gemma is invited to this year. I just said I wasn't surprised. Micah asked what I meant by that, and I said that Gemma is not kind to the people around her and lacks social skills and she's at an age where kids will notice that and not be forgiving."
"Micah seemed taken aback and said that she can't believe I would be so cruel about a child. She got her things and left and is apparently not speaking to her dad because he didn't stand up for her over what I said. She has also said she won't be coming to any upcoming family events," the woman added.
"My stepdad said I was right and that while he finds it hard to be honest about Gemma, it's good that I was," the post went on. "My mother said while I was right, as a mother it's not an easy thing to hear about your child. My husband says that I should have stuck to saying no to Gemma coming to the party and left it there because she isn't our concern beyond that and I should stay in my lane. I'm kind of questioning it now because I am someone who generally does try to stay in my lane and not get involved in other people's parenting or family business, but the comment was topical to what Micah was trying to force me to do, so I'm not sure if I was out of bounds to say it. AITA?"
'Her mom knows how she is'
The post soon gained a lot of attention across the platform. A user wrote, "I'm thinking NTA.. her mom knows how she is and still insisted over 10 mins that you invite her daughter. sure, wording could've been better but it's not like you called her a bad mother/parent so i don't see what's wrong with calling out the obvious if she wasn't letting it go. And for your sister to be mad at your father for not getting into it is also telling."
'Unlikeable brat'
Others soon joined in to note that Gemma did not sound very nice. A comment read, "NTA. It's not your daughter's fault that Gemma's an unlikeable brat. If Micah wants her to have play dates (breaks for her from Gemma?) then she needs to address her daughter's behavior. It does sound like the kid has some undiagnosed issues, but that isn't your daughter's problem and it shouldn't be foisted on her because it's convenient."
Meanwhile, another wrote, "NTA. Micah pushed for answers and she got them. I'm sure she was just hoping her pushiness led to an invite, so it's a FAAFO situation. Is it hard to hear that your child's behavior is unpleasant? Absolutely. Could this be a catalyst for Micah to step up her parenting game? I hope so - for the child's sake. Empathy is hard to teach but behavioral consequences should definitely be present."
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