'I was p***ed off': Bride left fuming after in-laws turn up at wedding in black to mourn the Queen
In an effort to show respect for Her Majesty, the groom's mother even suggested they call off the wedding entirely which the couple swiftly rejected
LONDON, UK: A woman who wed her six-year partner on September 17 has claimed that her in-laws' decision to make her special day all about the death of Queen Elizabeth II left her feeling very disappointed. Despite having compassion for the Queen's family on a human level, the 29-year-old bride and her new husband, Matt, declared they are not monarchists and didn't want the tragic news to overshadow their wedding. \
On the other side, Matt's family has been grieving the Queen's death extremely intensely, prioritizing it above everything else. In an effort to show respect for Her Majesty, Matt's mother Jane even suggested they call off the wedding entirely which the pair swiftly rejected. However, on the morning of their wedding, Jane arrived unexpectedly in a black dress to change the mood of the proceedings. When asked about her outfit choice, Jane explained "We' were in mourning and she wanted to be respectful." The bride politely reminded her mother-in-law that she was attending a wedding, not a funeral, but was left disappointed and exasperated when Matt's sister Emily arrived, also wearing a black dress.
Taking to Reddit, the frustrated bride, who goes by the username u/taqueenwedding, wrote: "Around 70% of Matt's guests were wearing black. I was pissed off, but ultimately I could ignore it. I found out when I was greeting guests later that Jane had told Matt's side to wear black at our request to honour Elizabeth. At the reception, a bunch of our guests started to go missing quite early on, so my maid of honour went to look for them and came back to get me. They were in a different room with a TV that was playing the queue footage and holding a 'prayer circle' where they were sharing their 'memories'. Lots of them were crying. I politely asked if everyone would come back for our first dance but Jane said they were busy celebrating a great (emphasis) woman, which I felt implied that I am the opposite." The OG post has been locked by the moderator.
At this point, the bride lost her cool and shouted at Jane that "she was being f****** selfish and ruining her son's wedding day" for someone she had never ever met. Even though she knew the guests wouldn't be coming back to the reception by this point, the bride requested that the hotel turn off the TVs.
With all being done and dusted, the bride has asked Reddit users for guidance on whether she may have overreacted to the incident after how it all turned out, ruining one of the most special days of her life. Here are some of the responses she has received.
One person wrote: "Your mother-in-law literally lied to the rest of the guests to make them all show up your wedding in mourning garb, to satisfy her desire to be seen mourning the Queen. This is pure virtue signaling on her part, and she deserves to be shamed for it. Perhaps you were a bit harsh, but I’d say it was merited given what you’ve described here. And I say this as an American, who is kind of a monarchist; I had a lot of respect for the Queen and I find the royals fascinating. But your wedding was your day, not hers."
Another said, "She used this as an opportunity to ruin the wedding and play the victim. Plus the funeral is tomorrow, do you wear black leading up to a loved one's funeral? No. I could understand a few minutes if you got married the day of the funeral if you are a hardcore royalist, but not this. Tell her that Queen Elizabeth II was all about family and loved ones. She ruined her son's wedding in the name of the Queen, who would have been ashamed of her actions."