'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' Cast Then and Now: Here's who stayed together and who split after show

Here's a look at whose romance survived after 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love'

PUBLISHED NOV 17, 2023

Tiff (L), Xander, and Vanessa (R) were among the stars of 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' (Netflix)

'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' Cast: Here are the couples who risked it all for love

Be it Lexi and Raelyn who broke up or Aussie and Sam who ended up together, The Ultimatum: Queer Love season 1 wasn't an easy ride (Netflix) — Be it Lexi and Raelyn, who broke up, or Aussie and Sam, who ended up together, 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' Season 1 wasn't an easy ride for the couples (Netflix)

In Netflix's 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love', five couples faced a pivotal choice: get engaged or part ways. Through temporary partnerships and reunions, some mended their connection, others drifted, and a few proposed. Among those engaged, some, like Mal and Yoly, split before the reunion. Here's a look at the current status of each original couple from this season's social experiment below.

Raelyn and Lexi

Lexi Goldberg (L) has revealed she and Rae Cheung-Sutton (R) have split (Netflix)

Though fans anticipated their wedding on 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love' reunion, Lexi, 25 (she/her) and Rae, 27 (she/he) decided to end their relationship after filming concluded. The couple felt their connection had served its purpose and recognized they were growing apart. It appears unresolved issues prompted the breakup.

Xander and Vanessa

Xander (R) and Vanessa (L) chose to end their four-year relationship after Xander developed feelings for Yoly during their trial marriage (Netflix)

Since their breakup on the show, Xander, 30 (she/her/they), and Vanessa, 30 (she/her) are currently single but doing well after the reunion. Vanessa remains open to the idea of marriage, emphasizing the need for a special connection. Xander, who issued the ultimatum, still seeks the right person and family, now with a clearer understanding of relationship priorities.

Yoly and Mal

Mal (L) revealed her and Yoly (R) were — Mal (L) revealed she and Yoly (R) were 'happily broken up' during the reunion, but the pair clashed over the exact timeline of their breakup (Netflix)

Having parted ways after 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love', Mal, 36 (she/her/they), and Yoly, 34 (she/her) are individually navigating their desires for future relationships and understanding their relationship needs. Yoly, currently single, is focusing on self-discovery, expressing a commitment to date herself before seeking a meaningful connection in the future.

Tiff and Mildred

After getting engaged on Ultimatum Day, Tiff (L) and Mildred (R) revealed at the reunion they were no longer together (Nertflix) — After getting engaged on Ultimatum Day, Tiff (L) and Mildred (R) revealed at the reunion they were no longer together (Netflix)

At the reunion, Tiff, 32 (they/them), and Mildred, 33 (she/her), who were engaged on 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love', revealed their breakup. Living together brought back unresolved issues for the couple, leading to a serious altercation and Mildred's arrest. The emotional discussion prompted Tiff to tearfully exit. After the split, both have been focusing on self-care, with Tiff drawing "gentle energies" and Mildred prioritizing business and her son's transition to adulthood.

Sam and Aussie

Out of the five couples that went on the show, Aussie and Sam are the only ones left together, but not married yet. (Netflix) — Out of the five couples who were on the show, Aussie and Sam are the only ones who are still together, but they are not married yet (Netflix)

In a surprising twist, Sam, 31 (she/her), and Aussie, 42 (pronoun: Aussie), are the sole remaining couple from 'The Ultimatum: Queer Love'. Although engaged, they postponed marriage to focus on individual self-improvement. Sam happily disclosed their joint efforts with therapists, with Aussie highlighting personal growth in addressing needs and overcoming codependency. Both anticipate a future wedding after establishing a "solid foundation" within themselves.