'Straight' man looking for Grindr hookup claims it's not gay if he 'tops' leaves Internet in splits
A Grindr user recounted an odd exchange he had with a man who identified as "straight" but was actually looking for hookups on the gay dating app. A greenscreen video posted by @sharinganivan, a TikTok user, showed a slew of screenshots of the messages he had with the man about his sexuality.
It can be seen that the user had sent him a text, asking, "So, you're straight but you're looking for gay sex?" in the video, which has received over 173,000 likes on TikTok. In response to this, the man insisted that he is heterosexual but offered a bizarre and somewhat puzzling explanation for why he used the app that helps gay men find hookups. The man, who refers to himself as "20cm str8 top", replied, "It's not gay to top, lol", as reported by Daily Star.
In the gay community, terms such as tops, bottoms, and verses (or switches) are used to describe sexual preferences. During sex, tops prefer to be the more dominant ones, while bottoms often follow their lead. Verses typically enjoy alternating between sexually dominant positions with their partners.
In the caption, the TikTok user joked, "Well, I guess I'm str8 then." Internet users were left in fits of laughter over the exchange as they informed the unknown Grindr man in the comments that it didn't work that way. One user joked, "Am I straight?! My parents are going to be so happy." Another one added, "Man’s going off the ancient Roman’s rules." A third commented, "I’ve looked at this every single possible way and still can’t understand how he came to this conclusion." A fourth wrote, "They keep fooling themselves."
However, some users advised the original poster to avoid certain accounts since they were simply "not ready yet." A user warned, "I just never comment on those lol It's clear that they're just not ready to admit it so I don't want to bring it up. But yeah it's the irony."
In another TikTok video released in 2021, Dr Joe Kort, US-based sex and relationships expert with a doctorate in clinical sexology, claimed that straight men can be sexually involved with men without actually being gay. He said, “When straight men have sex with men it’s not a gay thing, it’s a guy thing. In general, men have more transactional sex with one another, in general, women don’t. Men have objectified sex where it’s just about the act, it’s just about getting off.” This divided the internet into two parts with some agreeing with him and some not.