'Sex Love and Goop': Lesbian duo Camille, Shandra share insecurities over body-shaming

Shandra and Camille open up about growing up with body-shaming insecurities that always made them see themselves in a different light


                            'Sex Love and Goop': Lesbian duo Camille, Shandra share insecurities over body-shaming
Camille and Shandra on 'Sex, Love and Goop' (Netflix)
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'Sex, Love and Goop' is Netflix's newest sex show and Gwyneth Paltrow is its executive producer. The 6-episode series of about 40 minutes each includes different techniques to stimulate arousal, specific interest like kinks and each couple's preferred turn-ons.

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The new release focuses on the relationship and sex lives of couples across races, sexual identities and ages. With the help of trained professionals who help each couple to resolve their bedroom issues, delve into communicating each other's needs and wants and help reignite the seemingly lost spark of chemistry, this show is the soon-to-be talk of the town!

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Lesbian couple Shandra and Camille get help from Darshana Avila, an erotic wholeness coach. Most of what she teaches is around how to learn intimacy-building and cultivating skills to help expand what is possible. Over the course of the next three days, Darshana would be guiding Camille and Shandra in a workshop that's designed to help them gain their confidence and expand their sexual knowledge.

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While Camille was brought up in a dance background, she struggled with insecurities such as not looking perfect all the time. On the other hand, Shandra was an athlete all her life and grew up muscular. She began to gain weight as she got older, from which she eventually started being insecure about being body shamed.

A still from 'Sex, Love and Goop' (Netflix)

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According to Darshana, the biggest thing for the recently-engaged couple is having to claim their authentic expression of their sexual identity. The couple was also very open to bringing more into their sexual lives and styles. Darshana's teachings will mostly revolve around some ideas related to sex positions.

When it comes to techniques, Darshana says it's important to know how to touch bodies, how to touch vulvas; skills that are teachable. having said that, it's a given that the best positions are the ones that feel good. Her major interest for the couple is to create as much space for the both of them to be authentic. 

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Shandra and Camille on 'Sex, Love and Goop' (Netflix)

Camille opens up and says that she used to have a certain perception of herself. She thought of herself as cool, open, and confident, and that body-shaming doesn't have an effect on her. In her early 20s, she found out that she's in fact, quite the opposite and in denial of who she really is as a person. Being insanely insecure about how she looks, Camille is very appreciative of Shandra for loving her unconditionally.

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To combat body image issues, Darshana has both Camille and Shandra participate in a transformational technique called "Mirror Work", where they are told to disrobe themselves as much as they wish to, whilst there may be pangs of fear, judgement or even shame, predominantly in Camille's case. During this process, Camille is very much present at the moment, in the here and now.

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Darshana Avila on 'Sex, Love and Goop' (Netflix)

The outcome from the "Mirror Work" technique, a form of exposure therapy, if you will, is to come to terms and accept the fact of how you look, in spite of being exposed, to your own voice of judgment, criticism, and shame.

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Camille says that it's vital to be in tune with oneself before bringing someone else into the equation, while Shandra adds that she's happy that they have something so intimate and special to discuss as a couple.