'Only time I was ever truly in love': Pamela Anderson on her past relationship with ex-husband Tommy Lee
VANCOUVER, CANADA: Pamela Anderson has opened up about her past relationship with ex-husband Tommy Lee, declaring that their stolen sex tapes "ruined" their bond. However, the 'Baywatch' star believes that this relationship with the metal rocker “may have been the only time [she] was ever truly in love”.
The actress and activist reflected on her dating history, including her former relationship with the Mötley Crüe musician, in her new memoir 'Love, Pamela'. In an excerpt from the book shared with People before it is published on January, 31, Anderson wrote about the hot and cold moments of the time she spent with Lee during their relationship. “My relationship with Tommy may have been the only time I was ever truly in love,” she wrote, before adding: “We had fun and our rule was no rules.” The former couple got married on a beach in Cancun in 1995 and are parents to two sons Brandon, 26, and Dylan, 25. Anderson and Lee's marriage came to an end in 1998 after three years of dominating tabloids and falling prey to the paparazzi's relentless pursuit.
The 55-year-old recalled that things changed with Lee after a theft of personal tapes from the couple’s garage resulted in a leak of their "sex tape." The tapes were then sold by others leading to the event creating a sensation across the globe. "It ruined lives, starting with our relationship — and it's unforgivable that people, still to this day, think they can profit from such a terrible experience, let alone a crime." Anderson wrote to People, admitting that she has never watched the stolen tape.
Amid the stress of the leaked tapes, one night in 1998, the couple got into an argument. Anderson recalled the altercation turning violent when her then-husband “ripped” their oldest son away from her and “threw” her and the couple’s seven-month-old son “into a wall”. Panicked by the whole situation, Anderson called 911 at which point Lee was arrested and sentenced to six months in jail. At the time, Anderson filed for divorce and noted this event as when their "hell began." Following the separation, Anderson focused on caring for her sons and finding healing.
"The divorce from Tommy was the hardest, lowest, most difficult point of my life," she wrote in her memoir, as per the outlet. "I was crushed. I still couldn't believe that the person I loved the most was capable of what had happened that night. We were both devastated, but I had to protect my babies." She revealed that the couple still "check in, every once in a while,” adding that she is grateful that "Tommy is the father of my kids."
Anderson now lives in her grandparent's former farmhouse on Vancouver Island and is single. She enjoys her time there with the company of her five dogs, her beloved books, her garden, and the sea. Anderson admitted that although she never fell in love again, she has remarried multiple times since her divorce from Lee. She married and divorced Kid Rock in 2006, before marrying producer Rick Solomon in 2007, and again in 2014, only to end up in a divorce a year later.
Anderson also reportedly married producer Jon Peters in 2020, according to E! News, before announcing their separation 12 days later. "I live a more romantic life now that I'm alone than I did in relationships," said Anderson. "l light my candles, have my music playing. I have my piano, I'm sure it would be lovely if someone else was in my life and wanted the same thing but I've just never met them. It's usually about catering to them, and there has to be a balance."
Anderson ended the note by declaring what she wants in her person. "I don't need someone to bring me roses," she said with a smile. "I've just planted a hundred rose bushes. I can get them any time I want — and they're my favorite roses."