Mandy Moore says abusive ex Ryan Adams should've said sorry to her before public apology: 'It's curious'
'I’m not looking for an apology necessarily, but I do find it curious that someone would sort of do an interview about it without actually making amends privately'
Mandy Moore, who once accused ex-husband Ryan Adams of emotional and sexual abuse, said that the lengthy public apology he released was not enough because he never had the audacity to apologize to her privately.
“It’s challenging because I feel like in many ways I’ve said all I want to say about him and that situation, but I find it curious that someone would make a public apology but not do it privately,” the 'This Is Us' star, 36, told Hoda Kotb on the 'Today' show on Monday, July 6. “I am speaking for myself, but I have not heard from him. And I’m not looking for an apology necessarily, but I do find it curious that someone would sort of do an interview about it without actually making amends privately.”
More than a year after the abuse allegations surfaced, the 'Do You Still Love Me?' singer, 45, penned an extensive statement published by Daily Mail, in which he claimed that he had gotten sober since the allegations against him came to light.
“There are no words to express how bad I feel about the ways I’ve mistreated people throughout my life and career,” he wrote. “All I can say is that I’m sorry. It’s that simple. This period of isolation and reflection made me realize that I needed to make significant changes in my life. I’ve gotten past the point where I would be apologizing just for the sake of being let off the hook and I know full well that any apology from me probably won’t be accepted by those I’ve hurt. I get that and I also understand that there’s no going back.”
The Grammy nominee also admitted that he knew that some people might think this is “the same empty bulls**t apology that I’ve always used when I was called out." Nevertheless, he insisted that “this time it is different.”
“No amount of growth will ever take away the suffering I had caused,” he continued. “I will never be off the hook and I am fully accountable for my harmful behavior, and will be for my actions moving forward.”
Adams added that he had put in a lot of effort in staying sober and had channeled his emotions into creating new music.“Some of these songs are angry, many are sad but most of them are about the lessons I’ve learned over the last few years,” he wrote. “Those ones are an expression of my deepest remorse. I hope that the people I’ve hurt will heal. And I hope that they will find a way to forgive me.”
In an exposé published in The New York Times in February 2019, Moore and six other women accused Adams of being emotionally manipulative. Moore said that he tried to end her singing career by never recording her songs and replacing her with other female artists after booking her studio time. “His controlling behavior essentially did block my ability to make new connections in the industry during a very pivotal and potentially lucrative time — my entire mid-to-late 20s,” she wrote.
Adams was also accused by other women of helping them with their careers in return for sexual favors. At the time, Adams issued a statement to Us Weekly saying that he is “not a perfect man” and has “made many mistakes.” However, he added that many of the facts stated in the NYT exposé were “upsettingly inaccurate” and while some details were “misrepresented; some are exaggerated; some are outright false.”