Internet slams wife fuming over husband's kindness towards maid
A rich wife vented her rage online about her husband's 'leniency' with their maid. When her husband gladly granted her housekeeper's plea for time off, she was furious. The wife wrote about the scenario on the AITA forum on Reddit, hoping to get some sympathy, but Redditors called her YTA (You're The A**hole) and blasted her for having no empathy and regard for people below her station.
In the Reddit post titled "Am I the a**hole for telling my husband he's giving our housekeeper too many days off?" the woman details, "I 35f and my husband 37m moved to a new country last year and have settled in well. We had a cook and cleaner back where we lived so it only made sense to get one when we moved. Luckily, our cook said she could also clean for us so we do not have two people walking in and out of our house."
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As per Somecards, she further writes, "Now to the issue. She works from Monday to Friday and has the weekend off. Monday’s & Thursday’s are mainly for cleaning, Wednesdays are market days and Tuesdays & Thursday’s are cooking days. About a week or two into her working for us, my husband gave her the Wednesday off because he said we had enough food and the house was clean enough. I asked about the market and he said she’d go on Thursday instead. I told him I was irritated he didn’t consult me before and he said he was the one paying her so he can give her as many off days as he wants."
The housekeeper had to work on her off day, a Sunday, as she could not complete her work due to an accident while going to the market and had severe back pains. The husband "told her to go to the hospital the next Monday and gave her money for consultation and medicine." The wife was very annoyed by the situation. The housekeeper was given Monday and Tuesday off as she was admitted to the hospital due to her back pain.
The last straw for the wife was on Tuesday when the husband gave the housekeeper the whole week off because "she just received a call from her mother saying her older sister has passed away." At this point the wife, "snapped and yelled at him. I said he doesn’t know how much work load he’s put on me because he gave her the week off." The husband also yells at his wife and tells her that "because I am a stay at home mom with kids who are 14 & 20 who are barely at home and are in school, and I have the privilege to still have someone do all my housework for me even though that’s my job." He also said that "if he hears me complain one more time he’ll send her to work for someone else and make me get a job and still do house work. I feel that that was an inconsiderate statement to make. He hasn’t really spoken to me since. So AITA?
'How can a person be so cold hearted?'
Redditors didn't have any sympathy for the wife. One user did not mince their words in the comments section, ""The help" was all I needed to hear to know you don't actually know what is and isn't professional work behavior. If you want to play that game, she should be contacting HR (obviously your husband because being "human" is another thing you don't do) and reporting a manager who isn't giving her consideration for job related injuries. Normally I'd say his comment about it being his money is out of line, but you don't really contribute much to the household given your job seems to be only telling someone else to do it. 5 days a week you have full time help? Given your glaring lack of empathy, I have a hard time believing you did much to raise your kids either. Just the one live in nanny or a nanny and a driver? Full time tutor? You got the golden ticket and are complaining you have to unwrap the candy bar yourself."
Another user wrote, "Work is for other people. OP is too busy looking down her nose to do anything meaningful with her life." A third Redditor commented, "She's a stay at home mom to a 14 & 20 year old....and she can't do some damn house work?! I can't say more or I'll be banned here too," while another user wrote, "Wow. How can a person be so cold hearted? YTA. She had an accident and ended up in the hospital, and her sister died, and all you were worried about was the fact that you had to do your own cleaning and cooking. You have a husband who at least has a heart. You don't deserve him."
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