Busy Philipps opens up about the time her husband 'didn't try' to be a dad and said baby #2 was 'all on you'
Philipps speaks of the time her husband Marc Silverstein was not fully on board the parenting train, especially after they welcomed their first daughter Birdie Leigh
Busy Philipps is currently trying to manage the responsibilities that come with juggling a marriage and adding new members to the family at the same time. According to People magazine, the 39-year-old actor and host of E!’s 'Busy Tonight' opened up to Parents Magazine about her 11-year marriage to producer husband Marc Silverstein.
During the interview, Philipps spoke about the time her husband was not fully on board the parenting train, and how he wasn’t initially the most supportive parent after they welcomed their first daughter Birdie Leigh, who is 10 years old now. "He was not understanding how to be a dad and, in fact, didn’t try. I was parenting by myself," Philipps recalled. "When I told him I wanted to have a second child, he said, 'Fine, but it’s all on you.' That was so heartbreaking."
She continued, "Marriage is always hard, but especially when you have kids … You’re going to go through periods when you’re not into it, but there always has to be one person willing to fight. I went to Marc several times and said, 'I cannot do this anymore. Something has to change, and it’s you'."
Philipps added: "We’ve had a lot of serious discussions and counseling, and he’s incredibly participatory now in a way I don’t think he could’ve imagined before. We’re a work in progress but trying our best, and that’s the most you can do."
However, they've come a long way since that conversation, and the couple has welcomed their second daughter Cricket Pearl, in the meantime as well. And contrary to expectations, Philipps disagrees with the idea that she’s supposed to be proud of how her body has changed after having kids.
"I’m able to intellectually appreciate the fact that my body has done a truly incredible thing, but I don’t love the extra skin," she said. "People say, 'Wear it like a badge!' Um, yeah, that doesn’t speak to me. I’d rather have a flat stomach."
Despite all that, the actress still manages to stay grounded about her body for her girls. She explained, "I want to lead by example. Weighing myself wasn’t helpful for my mental state, so I stopped doing that a couple of years ago."
"Now, I just try to make healthy, balanced choices and don’t call any food 'bad'," Philipps added. "My girls see me exercise, but they also see me eat nachos. I think both are important."
The former 'Freaks and Geeks' star also revealed during the course of her interview that her approach to parenting is to have no approach at all. "I call myself the all-over-the-place, doesn’t-have-a-plan mom. Is that a parenting philosophy?" Philipps told Parents. "On a daily basis, I’m just trying to hold it together."
"Our family has no absolute rules about screen time or sugar or anything," continued the actress and mother of two. "Marc and I were raised that way, and we turned out fine."
The actress revealed during the interview that there's just one more thing which bothers her extremely about motherhood, and something that she's absolutely not okay with: needing alcohol to deal with your kids. "This may be controversial, but I’m just going to say it: I’m so f—ing over the culture of mommy wine and glasses that say 'Mommy juice'," she shared.
"You go to a preschool birthday party at 10 a.m., and it’s like, 'Does anyone want a wine cooler?' Um, no, girlfriend. I want to make sure my daughter doesn’t fall off this play structure. It’s such a weird thing!" The Dawson’s Creek alum added that it’s not exactly the drinking that upsets her though, because "If you know me at all, you know I love a good margarita. I just don’t think the two things need to be tied together. I’m the best mom when I’m sober."