'7th Heaven' star Beverley Mitchell reveals she suffered a miscarriage of twins, wants more women to talk about it
In a detailed blog post about her miscarriage, the actress revealed how she dealt with the emotional upheavals and the support she received from her loved ones.
'7th Heaven' star Beverley Mitchell has revealed that she had a miscarriage earlier this year, and asked women with similar experiences to start a conversation about it.
On her blog 'Growing Up Hollywood', Mitchell wrote a post titled 'Thankful, Grateful, Blessed' where she shared her unfortunate news. She revealed how she was expecting twins with her husband Michael Cameron a few months back, but the happy couple's dreams were shattered when she suffered a miscarriage.
Narrating the chain of events, Mitchell wrote: "A few months back Michael and I were thrilled, we had just found out we were pregnant, and though we were surprised, we were excited. It didn’t take long before we began to prepare for a life filled with more little people in it."
"And much to our surprise, we came to find out it was twins!" she continued. "After our shock, came acceptance and excitement. A few weeks later, our new dream of our growing family came crashing down; we had a miscarriage. This was a shock."
She went on to explain how she came to term with the news. Her first instinct was to say she was "fine". She recalled, "And to be honest; I was trying to be, I thought I had to be, for my family, for myself. I had to jump on a plane and go to work being surrounded by babies and kids while I was still miscarrying. That was interesting."
Mitchell, who is already a mother of two, also shared some advice she was given by a close friend when she was pregnant with her daughter Mackenzie who is now 5 years old. "I remember something one of my best friends told me during my first pregnancy, if the pregnancy is viable it will stick if the baby (babies) are not viable they won’t."
She added, "this makes perfect sense and was something I even said when I shared the news of our pregnancy to our closest friends, this challenged me."
She struggled initially to reconcile with the fact that she had miscarried, she explains that this happened because she wasn't very aware of miscarriages and how they occurred in the first place. She said, "Because though it made sense in my head, my heart could not make sense of it. I never really considered that I would miscarry being that I had already had two healthy pregnancies. This was my misconception, you see, I didn’t know much about miscarriages and I didn’t know many people who had miscarried, or so I thought."
In this trying time, the actress has found a way to deal with her loss by sharing her feelings with people who've been through the same experience.
"It is with sharing it that the healing begins, the acceptance that it happened, it is when you ignore it or pretend that it never happened that you cause more pain," she said.
"Dismissing it almost makes it worse." She's thankful to her loved ones who've helped her through the ordeal. "I am incredibly grateful for my rock of a husband who had patience while I worked through the gamut of emotions. I had my girlfriends who I relied on too, who though I didn’t talk with them much during this time, who constantly checked in and left me messages and gave me the time to heal but also to show the support was there when I wanted or needed it."