'You contributed to raising a racist': Internet slams mom after heated argument between son and daughter
SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA: What is a bigger crime, racism or destruction of material possession? The Internet has come to a consensus regarding an incident where a teenage girl made racist jokes and her brother destroyed her dress in retaliation. The scenario was descussed by Original Poster (OP) on Reddit's popular forum, "Am I The A**hole". The post recieved more than 9,000 upvotes and 4,000 comments from fellow Redditors.
In the Reddit post titled, "AITA for not allowing my son to go to his school dance?," OP wrote that she has 6 children with her husband and the story concerns her daughter Gianna, who is a junior in high school and son Ryker, who is in the 7th grade. She wrote, "The kids are starting to have their school dances, the 7th grade dance is later this month and the junior banquet is in early May. We have gone shopping for dress clothes for all the dances. We bought Gianna’s dress a few weeks ago."
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'Our daughter got in trouble last week for making racist jokes'
She further detailed saying, "Around 2 months ago, we got a call from Gianna’s choir teacher saying that Gianna and a few other altos were making racist jokes about some of the new pieces she introduced, including an Urdu song and a song from Honduras. Ryker has a friend from his baseball team who is Honduran (he was born here but his mom was born in Honduras and his dad is mixed), when Ryker heard out about this he was quite mad and asked if he could have his friend come over, and teach her about the culture there. We allowed this and he came over with his parents and they made food and Ryker and his friend taled about sports and music there, Gianna was very clearly not enjoying it but we made her engage anyways."
But the trouble didn't stop there. She added, "Our daughter and a group of her friends, including her boyfriend, got in trouble last week for making racist jokes again. We took her phone to investigate to see where this hatred could be coming from. Ryker had his friends over for a sleepover the night we found out about this, during dinner the boys were talking about how their coach would never let them live though it if they bullied a kid or made racist jokes. My husband and I tried helping guide them through their feelings, like asking them about the diverse athletes they liked."
The mother wrote, "Gianna was hanging out with friends at the mall that night. Our son and the boys decided to use this as an opportunity to trash the dress, using mud, drinks and cutting a few holes in the dress. We found out when Gianna came home, entered her room and saw the dress. The boys were laughing and Ryker said they did it because Gianna didn’t deserve to go to the banquet, and saying how there 'could be kids that look like' his Honduan friend. We told Ryker we were trying our best to educate her in a very white town (we’re also white). We told him that this was the wrong way to take out his anger and that as a result, he couldn’t go to his 7th grade dance. Ryker texted my parents and siblings as well as my in-laws, a few have called us and came to his defense, saying he’s just a kid who was trying to cope with anger. Now we’re unsure if we are in the wrong. AITA?"
'You contributed to raising a racist'
Redditors slammed the woman for punishing the son more severely than the daughter, calling her YTA (You're The A**hole) in this situation. One user wrote, "YTA. I don’t understand how destroying a dress is coming with a bigger punishment than getting in trouble for racism… twice. What he did was wrong, but the fact that your daughter is still getting to go to her dance and out with friends also seems like the wrong response. I can understand why he is angry." Another user commented, "YTA You're educating Gianna for repeated shitty behavior but not punishing her. You're punishing Ryker without educating him about appropriate anger expression. Get it together."
A third user wrote, "YTA. An appropriate punishment would be making him pay back the cost of the dress/a new one. But I honestly wouldnt punish him, I'd explain how he did it was wrong but youre proud of him for sticking up for his friends against his RACIAT SISTER. And YTA for even allowing your daughter to still go to the dance. Obviously whatever you're doing with your racist daughter isn't changing her mind. Maybe take a look at yourself and how you contributed to raising a racist."
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