Mom slammed for allowing son, 27, to move back home for 'night's sleep' away from GF, newborn
UNITED KINGDOM: Anonymous UK-based woman sparked a heated debate online after she revealed her 27-year-old son wants to move back home Monday-Friday, as he has recently had a baby and wants to get a good night's sleep. The woman expressed her concern popular on parenting forum 'Mumsnet' revealing she isn't 'enamored' with the idea but she does not want to be 'unsupportive' by saying no. This sparked social media outrage as people called her son 'silly', 'selfish' and 'immature'.
Explaining the situation, the woman wrote, "(My son, 27) and his girlfriend recently had a baby. As you'd expect they are being woken up during the night. (My son) has asked if he can move back in Mon - Fri so he can get a proper night's sleep so he can concentrate on going to work and do his job effectively. (My husband) thinks the idea is outrageous and he should just 'get on with it', I feel a bit confused as to why he is even asking. 'Surely other new parents don't do this? I get sleep deprivation is hard, but I am not overly enamoured with this idea. But I don't want to be unsupportive either - how would you respond?'" Her post angered many, with some people saying they felt sorry for his 'poor girlfriend' and calling him 'unsupportive' for leaving her with the tot and that her son should be responsible and she should tell him to grow up.
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Users were quick to slam the mother for her son's decision and said she should be the one correcting him and asking him to grow up and act responsibly. One wrote, "Your husband is right. How would you have felt if he'd left you 5 days a week when your son was a baby?! Have a word with your son and tell him to grow up." Another said, "You say no for the sake of his girlfriend's wellbeing. You could also sit him down and explain this is what everyone else with kids goes through." Another person agreed: 'Wow. How about he thinks of his wife's need to get some sleep too and takes the time to do his share of the night-time care?."
Users were concerned about the mother of the child and supported her as one wrote, "Surely the answer is just no. if you want to offer support. I'd offer it to the mother because she's probably the one actually getting up in the night." And one questioned, "What's his girlfriend's take on this thoroughly selfish idea? The mother then replied to the outrage of the people and said, "Yeah I agree - he should be sharing the work load, but his argument is when he gets back from work he does 'everything' for the baby - feeding, bathing, cleaning all the bottles, laundry, cooking etc. its difficult because he's really struggling and does seem to be doing more than this fair share when he can."
Users then urged the mother to tell her son to not abandon his girlfriend and his baby while sharing the responsibilities. The mother also responded by saying, "His girlfriend said she doesn't mind (according to him)." One user struck at the mother and said, @HippPippy But that's part of being a parent? He probably has to take over parenting when he gets home, because his girlfriend has been parenting for the entire day, plus through the night (as it appears she does 100% of the night feeds). if your son can't take over the baby when he gets home from work, when is his girlfriend supposed to get any rest whatsoever?
Users were keen to know about his job and wondered why was it so difficult for the father to look after his own child and abandon the mother and child. One wrote, "What is his job? Doctor? Train driver? Something that is critical he is awake and aware?" To which the mother replied, "Yes it is critical he is alert and can concentrate - other peoples safety is at stake." One user wrote, I would be asking myself, why this bloke had been raised to be so selfish. He needs both barrels and told to grow the f**k up tbh. She has the baby all day, yes he needs to take over when he gets in. Thats the sort of s**t you do when you have babies. "
The mother was quick to defend her son to the user as she responded, "Hang on, how does that work? He's supposed to work all day, and then take on all the childcare, cooking laundry etc in the evenings too ?" Further one user simply wrote, "Your son needs to grow up."
