Who is Cayce LaCorte? South Carolina TikTok mom lauded for teaching five daughters virginity 'doesn't exist'
'It is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose other than making women feel bad about ourselves'
CHARLESTON, SOUTH CAROLINA: A mother is receiving a lot of praise from people online after she said she told her daughters “there is no such thing as virginity." The progressive opinion of the mother named Cayce LaCorte was revealed after another mother Nevada Shareef asked parents in a video, “Name something about the way you raised your kids that people think is weird but you think is healthy.” LaCorte soon jumped to share her thoughts on raising five daughters, aged seven to 16.
The 40-year-old writer said in a TikTok video, which has received more than two million views, “I'm gonna get a lot of s**t for this, but what are you gonna do? I'm raising my five daughters to believe that there is no such thing as virginity.” Explaining further, she stated: “It is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose other than making women feel bad about ourselves. Just because some guy randomly sticks his penis in you at some point in your life, it does not change your worth. It does not change who you are. It doesn't do anything other than it happened."
LaCorte continued, “Sex is important. It's a big deal; it should always be a big deal. It has nothing to do with your first time. It's just ridiculous. The whole concept is ridiculous. I'm raising them to be good people and have solid foundations and make their own choices and make intelligent choices. Not because some book says not to.” One user, who shared they had been raped, said, “By your standards, I'm not soiled.” The TikToker responded in a follow-up video: “I have seen a disproportionate amount of comments after that video went viral about the myth of virginity. So many people in my life just talking about it have said the same thing; their first time wasn't their choice,” before adding, “It breaks my heart because we put so much value on something that doesn't f*****g exist. We make it shape who we are, and it doesn't need to."
Though LaCorte thought she would get hate comments after making such strong remarks about virginity, she was in fact applauded for her parenting style. One person said, “we do need to normalize this!!! You just shifted my perspective in 15secs, it makes so much sense.” Another one commented, “Love this. I've always taught my daughters that it is more important to protect their credit score than their virginity.”
One TikToker user even asked LaCorte, “So how do you discuss the ‘right time’? like did you set an age requirement or anything?” The mother answered that question in another video as she explained, “When you can have an adult conversation with your partner about sex, when you can talk about protection, talk about past partners, consent, anything that makes you uncomfortable, what you’re into, what you’re not into. And if you’re like ‘I can’t talk about that!’ then you’re not ready.”
However, there were a few who condemned her parenting techniques as a person on Twitter said, “No she's not a great mom, she's one of those "cool moms" who doesn't care about their child engaging in immoral or dangerous activity and is using feminist claptrap as her excuse.” Another user tweeted, “This is a personal thing! However, I hope she teaches them about disease. Pregnancy etc. Mom presents as a Nut Case!”
No she's not a great mom, she's one of those "cool moms" who doesn't care about their child engaging in immoral or dangerous activity and is using feminist claptrap as her excuse.— Big J (@TheBigJSpeaks) February 26, 2021
This is a personal thing! However, I hope she teaches them about disease. Pregnancy etc. Mom presents as a Nut Case!— charles sutter (@sutcharles) February 25, 2021