'I chose him too': Meghan Markle hits back at people for saying she was ‘lucky’ that Harry ‘chose’ her
Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex, is expressing her experiences after hearing that she should consider herself "so lucky" that Prince Harry "chose her" as his wife. Meghan spoke with actress and author Mindy Kaling about her experience as a single mother and her choice to create a family on her most recent ‘Archetypes’ podcast episode, titled ‘The Stigma of the Singleton.’ The 41-year-old royal also discussed how she and her husband fought against the idea that a man choosing them signifies their value.
Relating it back to her own experience with Harry, Meghan said, "When I started dating my husband, we became engaged and everyone was just like, 'Oh my God, you’re so lucky he chose you,'" adding that "at a certain point after you hear it a million times over, you’re like, 'Well, I chose him too.'" The 41-year-old went on to say how appreciative she was that her husband had refuted the comment by saying, “They’ve got it all wrong. I’m the lucky one ‘cause you chose me.'"
"But it’s, it is gendered and it’s archetyped and it’s stereotyped that…' you’re so lucky.' And it just feeds into this idea that you’re waiting for someone to tell you that you’re good enough, as opposed to knowing that you’re good enough on your own," Meghan added. Meghan and Harry got married in 2018. The pair are the parents of Lilibet, 1 year old, and Archie, 3 years old. Although the Duchess seems to have always been the most attractive girl in the group, she admitted that she didn't stop being the intellectual one until she was older.
Meghan shares with Mindy, “I never had anyone to sit with at lunch. I was always a little bit of a loner and really shy and didn’t know where to fit in. So, I was like, ‘Well, OK, I'll just become the president of the multi-culture club and the president of the sophomore class and the president of this and French club. And by doing that, I had meetings at lunchtime so I didn’t have to worry about who I would sit with or what I would do because I was always so busy.” This podcast episode isn't the first time Meghan has spoken about her family and relationship with Harry. In June, the former ‘Suits’ actor opened up about her experience with suffering a miscarriage a year before welcoming her now 1-year-old daughter Lilibet.
She said in a Vogue interview with journalist Jessica Yellin and activist icon Gloria Steinem, after the Supreme Court reversed the important Roe v Wade ruling from 1973, which upheld the constitutional right to an abortion, “I know what miscarrying feels like, which I’ve talked about publicly. The more that we normalize the conversation about the things that affect our lives and bodies, the more people are going to understand how necessary it is to have protections in place.”