Man slammed online for letting his family 'see' his girlfriend during a video call
SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA: A man faced people’s wrath online after he posted a very personal story about him and his girlfriend of six years. The man, who goes by u/Familiar-Natural-566 on Reddit, titled his post, 'AITA for accidentally exposing my girlfriend?'
The man wrote, “I'm 31m, living with my girlfriend 31f, in a home we bought together. We're very comfortable being around each other. We would go around the house in our underwear or even naked sometimes. It's been this way for as long as I can remember. Recently, on a weekday, I went to fetch her home from work. We reached home and did our usual stuff. I then had a phone call, and needed to work on some project with my family (important).”
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‘At that time, my girlfriend is already topless’
Giving more details, the Reddit user elaborated, “I went over to my girlfriend's room, and asked and borrowed her phone. She didn't really want to lend me one but did it anyway because it has an app installed which I needed. (She knew I needed it for work) *And to clarify, I could had install the app myself but I was already tired after working all day, and now at night, I decided to borrow hers.
“I went back to my room and started working. At that time, my girlfriend is already topless. I was on the mic working and talking and then needed to show the phone screen. I stand up and told them to wait as I set up the camera, and I closed my door. I had the camera on. And continued working. I was so focused that I didn't notice my girlfriend opened the door and was coming in until I heard my sister scream. (EDIT: My sister screamed because my brother was present),” he continued.
He then shared, “Things happened so fast. My girl was exposed and she quickly hid herself (was around 5 seconds). I was shocked and asked why is she in my room. She said she wanted to get her phone back. I was still in shock and didn't immediately end the call until a minute or so. The night was very long. I was trying to comfort her. She cried and wanted to be alone. I insisted to stay beside her, but she cried harder and asked me to go away. In the end, I complied.”
‘I tried to approach her again to talk’
However, the situation did not get any better the next day as the man wrote, “The next day morning, I offered to fetch her to work, she declined. I offered to fetch her back from work, she declined. The next day, I bought some snacks for her. Tidy up her room, wrote some notes and left it in the fridge and her room. She finished work and came back. I thought she didn't notice the notes, and texted her about it. She told me the snacks were too sweet and she can't eat them. The next day, I tried to approach her again to talk, but she told me she was not ready to talk to me.”
“Things continue on (for a few days). I felt like we're strangers now. She's been avoiding me and doesn't want to talk to me. It felt intense for me because she's living in the room next to me. I confronted her and told her she's hurting me by doing so. She said I'm insensitive to confront her while she's going through this. Now, I do admit i can't fully understand it because I'm not her. I'm not female too. But what about me and my feelings? Am I insensitive? Please tell me if I am. Because I don't understand how serious this is,” he concluded.
‘This whole thing could have been avoided’
People slammed the man as one of them commented, “YTA. YOUR feelings? You are not the victim here. You're not the one who was exposed, yet you're whining about YOUR feelings?And I don't understand why it took you an entire minute to end the call. And the fact that you STILL refuse to recognize how serious this was even after seeing how upset and humiliated your girlfriend is shows how selfish and insensitive you are.”
Another one wrote, “YTA. This whole thing could have been avoided if you'd told your girlfriend beforehand that you were doing a video call with your family. Your girlfriend wants space right now, but you're refusing to respect that because you're upset that she hasn't immediately gotten over it. You didn't mean to expose her, but you need to understand that she needs space right now to deal with it. Making her feel bad about her need for space will only make things worse. She feels bad enough; don't make her feel worse by insisting she prioritize your feelings. She's upset right now but you're making something bad that happened to her all about yourself and your feelings.”
“Too tired to download an app, but not too tired to work on that project. Yeah, right,” a third one said.
However, not everyone was against the man as one user mentioned, “I'm a woman and I say NTA. It's embarrassing, sure. But it's her own fault and taking it out on you ("when I see you I get remembered") is plain wrong. Your only mistake was borrowing her phone. (Well.. to be honest,I don't even think so. My husband and I will rotate your phones often and I don't see a problem there) And what did die thought you needed her phone for? I suppose you told her you need one special app for your work. She is completely overreacting. Again, it's embarrassing. But crying days long? Refusing to look at her partner because "every time I see you I'm remembered about it"? Serious? That's not a healthy reaction on being embarrassed.”
Another one added, “NAH can't really blame anyone here, it was an accident but you should have been more careful. Just give her some time and apologize to her, it must have been embarrassing for her but I'm sure she'll recover if given some time. for all the people saying YTA, it was an accident and people make mistakes.”
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