Internet backs netizen for not giving late sister’s belongings to her 'greedy' husband
SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA: A person has been hailed online for safeguarding his late sister’s dresses from her husband and his new family. The OP, u/Clear_Dream_7649, posted their story on the 'AITA' forum on Reddit titled, “AITA for telling my late sister's husband that his daughter is not getting any of my sister's dresses?”
The OP wrote, “My sister died 17 years ago. She left behind a 4-month-old daughter (now 17) and a 5-year-old son (now 22). My sister was diagnosed with cancer 8 months into her pregnancy and she was aware it was terminal right away. After my niece was born she asked me if I would keep her dresses (she had a collection of very nice dresses she had accumulated because she worked for a fashion magazine and got discounts and freebies sometimes) and her favorite jewelry for her kids.”
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‘She told me she knew her husband loved her’
OP explained that before dying, their sister said that “maybe her daughter wouldn't want the clothes but if she did, they would be with me. She told me she knew her husband loved her. But she knew he would remarry and that lines can be blurred and she really didn't want any of his future children or his future wife laying claim to her possessions. She wanted them for her children.”
“She had a necklace that she knew her son would like one day (and he asked for it when he was 15 and still wears it today). I said of course. Her husband did remarry. About a year after my sister died he told our family he had gotten another woman pregnant and then a couple of months later announced they were to marry. Things were awkward for a few years,” the man shared shared.
‘It’s shouldn't be a big deal’
The OP noted, “He was still part of our lives but we had not been close when my sister was alive and his wife was holding some hard feelings toward him and us. Their older daughter is 14 and they have a 9-year-old daughter together as well. The 14-year-old has a school dance coming up and wanted to wear one of my sister's dresses because she saw a photo of my sister wearing one and heard from her dad that I had them. He told me she wanted a dress and wanted me to send it over with my niece for his daughter.”
“I refused to send it and he responded by asking my nephew. Nephew said his half-sister had no business having anything to do with one of his mom's dresses. My niece wasn't angry like my nephew was but she found the idea weird. My sister's husband told me it wasn't fair to deny the girl the dress because she's not my sister's daughter and that she is part of the family and it shouldn't be a big deal. I told him I didn't feel comfortable giving it and was going to do what my sister wanted,” OP wrote, describing the situation.
“He suggested she could choose another dress from the collection and I said she was not getting ANY of the dresses. He said I should not be depriving his daughter and she's being treated unfairly. I told him those dresses were nothing to do with her. They are for my sister's children. He called me pathetic. AITA?” the person concluded.
‘I can't imagine what this man is thinking’
A user commented below his post, “NTA Your sister was right that he would get remarried and completely fail to safeguard the items she wanted to pass on to her own daughter. He has proven her right!!! Stick to your guns and safeguard those items for your sister's daughter.”
Another user stated, “NTA. Good thing your sister had the forethought to deal with this exact scenario by putting you in charge of these things. Your sister (and you as her proxy) owe nothing to the children her husband had after her death. These children have no claim to her estate which was disbursed prior to their birth. I can't imagine what this man is thinking. But I'm sure that your niece and nephew are grateful for your support.”
“NTA. Your sister wanted HER kids to have her items and SPECIFICALLY stated no kids he had later on. His kids with his new wife are not your nieces and have no connection at all to your sister. He just sounds greedy, to be honest,” the third one added.
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