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Internet divided after man loses it with in-laws for their wedding reception rule

The man stated that his wife's family paid for the whole wedding whereas his family contributed to the honeymoon which they spent in Europe

A man has recently posted the problem that he had to endure during one of the most important events in his life on the AITA forum on Reddit. The man who goes by the Reddit handle - Infamous-Feeling3207 said that it was because of the religious beliefs of his in-laws, they organized a dry wedding which the guests were unaware of. This only created problems during the wedding ceremony as most of the invitees did not take it in a light way and eventually spoiled the entire event of what could have been a memorable occasion for the man. 

The AITA forum has become quite popular nowadays where several Reddit users post various issues and try to get answers about whether they did the right thing or not. The above-mentioned post garnered more than 2,200 views and 900 comments where several users have expressed their opinions related to the incident. 

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What did the man say in the post?

In the post, the man stated that his wife's family paid for the whole wedding whereas his family contributed to the honeymoon which they spent in Europe. The post stated, "I got married about a month ago, and we were able to go on a three-week honeymoon in Europe so this was my first week back at work. This was possible because my wife’s family paid for the whole wedding, so we were able to use what my parents planned to contribute for the honeymoon, and then combine all we had saved with all the gift money as a down payment on a house." 

The user then addressed the issue, "The only catch is that my wife’s family are from an anti alcohol religion, and not only said they would only pay for a dry wedding, but would only even come to NY from Utah for that. My wife was leaving the religion as we met in college and is fully out now. To their credit the parents haven’t excommunicated her but whenever we are out there to visit, we fully have to play the part, no drinking no cursing church on Sunday, and I sleep on the couch." 

The post continued, "I’m not a raging drinker and didn’t wanna get wasted at my wedding anyway, plus my parents got them to at least allow champagne for toasts (my parents paid for that). We didn’t feel it necessary to mention this on the invites but apparently having an alcohol free wedding in NY requires notification."

It further stated, "Reception was at the same place as the ceremony, so as bride and I are about to enter, we’re in the hallway and I see my coworker and her husband making for an exit and we ask where they’re going as we’re about to enter. Co worker was at a loss of words but the husband straight up said 'heading out, kinda in bad taste not to mention a wedding is dry on the invite. Now we didn’t particularly care these two were leaving, but my wife was worried it was a sign of things to come. She was right and not only was more than half the wedding gone before cake, but other people expressed their displeasure as well.'"

The man gets into a heated argument with his father-in-law

He stated, "So there’s two conflicts. First, my FIL made a comment about how disrespectful everyone leaving was, and that my friends and family reflect poorly on me. I snapped and said it was because of the cult bullshit I agreed to follow, and that he should know going forward that my wife and I will not be conforming to any of his standards, and if he wants to keep seeing us, expect me to drink and speak the way I actually do in real life, and never even attempt to ask me about church. He said I’m way out of line (since he can’t curse) and stormed off." 

The most finally concludes, "Secondly, when I returned to work, I told the first co worker her husband was extremely rude and i didn’t want to remain friends outside work. Another co worker who stayed longer at the wedding jumped in to take her side, saying it was shitty I didn’t mention it being a dry wedding, as I KNEW people would rsvp no, and that he definitely would have, even tho he agreed the husband shouldn’t have been so blunt. I told him that we can be strictly work moving forward as well." 

'Alcohol is a social lubricant'

The Reddit post got a bit of mixed response from the other users. One Reddit user commented, "I agree op went overboard on the overbearing, santimonious FIL, but the FIL was the one who attacked OP bc of the results of a nonegotiable condition FIL attached to his payment of OP's wedding. I agree, ESH, and here is YET ANOTHER perfect illustration of why people should pay for their own weddings. You want a wedding that is authentic to your values? Pay for it yourself. Or except the strings attached (and remember the fact that it allowed for a down payment on a house!) and stfu. The real a**holes are the guests that felt compelled to tell OP they were leaving bc there was no free booze and to say they should have been notified."

Another opined, "honestly alcohol is a social lubricant and wedding receptions without it are a bore." One user chimed in and commented, "They did go to the wedding to celebrate the couple. The reception is for the guests and they bowed of that. And if they don't like the way they celebrate they should keep quiet but they aren't obliged to celebrate that way." A Reddit user commented, "He asked why they were leaving. All the husband did was answer the question. Essentially weddings are boring. Receptions are boring, alcohol is all that makes them not boring unless you happen to be part of a big happy family, which many are not. Including this bride. I’ve been to enough weddings to know I’m not really interested in going unless it’s close family or close friends. OP is the AH for not advising it was dry then getting mad when everyone left" while another said, "Having worked in the industry for years, I really don’t get why ppl don’t simply put it on the invite. Ppl always get pissed. And generally half the guests are gone before music starts. Largely they see it as night out/off regular life. Congrats on wasting money for a midnight snack when only 8 ppl are left. Just put it only the bloody invite. Guests will then plan their night accordingly. ESH." 

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