Internet sides with woman who left her boyfriend after he made a 'pathetic' request
SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA: The Internet is standing firm with a woman who left her boyfriend after he asked her to get a paternity test. The woman, who goes by the Reddit username, u/imshattered_, explained that she recently welcomed a baby boy with her boyfriend of three years “who is the first person relationship-wise I have ever loved and I thought we were doing great as new parents but also as partners.” The OP said one day her boyfriend came home and out of the blue asked her for a paternity test.
“I was putting away the dishes and he asked for one like he was asking what was for dinner. I'm a different race from him but our child, apart from the skin tone, is literally his mirror image from pictures I had seen of him when he was a baby,” the girlfriend wrote in a post on Reddit’s 'Takeoffmychest' forum. The stunned woman asked her boyfriend why he wants the test and he said that “he had to be sure he was the father, he had to have that certainty.” “The man I love doesn't trust me. He would actually believe that I would f**k someone else, cheat on him, and then try to pass off another man's baby as his,” she added.
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'It's proven that he's the father'
After a few days, the girlfriend agreed to a test as she had “nothing to hide, I never cheated and would have never cheated on him.” In the meantime, she started looking for a lawyer to work out a custody arrangement and court as she decided that she is going to leave her boyfriend once the result comes and “it's proven that he's the father.” “I can't even tell my family or my friends right now because they would go nuclear and my first priority is our child. I hope the test was worth it to him. I'm not asking for advice or reassurance or to explain his side. I just, I'm just realizing this part of my life is now over. What a way to start the New Year, huh,” she stated.
In an update post, the girlfriend clarified that she and her partner are from two different races and his family is okay with it. She also revealed that before asking about the paternity test, her boyfriend confided to his cousin about his insecurity. The post read, “The cousin told his wife and it spread like wildfire, especially in their family group chats. His mom put an end to the speculation though by doing a half-and-half pic of him and our son but also by adding some additional individual pics of both of them. She posted the pictures in the family group chat and said, 'Look at the old pics I found of Mason (a fake name my girlfriend gave due to privacy purposes).'"
'I'm pretty sure postpartum is playing a part'
Once the OP got calmed down, she asked her boyfriend why he started having doubts about paternity. "He said it was about a week before he asked me that he started having doubts. He said that he was on his lunch break one day just reading articles and he clicked on an old article about a man who found out his three kids weren't his after like 20 years. This led him into a rabbit hole of podcasters and YouTube videos that encouraged men to ask for paternity tests,” she wrote.
She said they soon did the test and three days later it got confirmed that he is the father. "It's been about 2 weeks from the results and I'm still really hurt. God, I sound so pathetic. I feel pathetic,” the OP wrote adding, “I'm pretty sure postpartum is playing a part in this because all I do is cry and I wasn't like this before. I have also moved into the spare room, something he was against but I felt bad because apart from when our son is awake, I'm sad all the time.” She said her boyfriend wants to move on and have more kids but she is not sure about it as their relationship has gotten weaker.
'Things have gone downhill'
“The physical affection is gone(I'm not in the right mindset and I don't want him to touch me), we rarely talk about anything but the baby, it's awkward, and I'm trying to find a way back to where we were and I can't see how,” she revealed. However, after bearing the weight of their relationship, the woman decided to leave her boyfriend. “I left. Things have gone downhill and under advisement, I can't really discuss it until things have been settled in court. I guess I'm really a cautionary tale on what can go wrong,” she concluded.
The girlfriend's post soon garnered immense social media attention, with many users supporting her. “Ask him to get an STD test. If he’s messing around with someone else he might’ve given you something,” one user wrote. “I was just thinking about your situation and saw this post. I'm glad you left, but I'm sorry you had to go through this at all. You didn't deserve your husband's lack of trust. I hope you're doing okay,” the second user wrote while another said “Dude wants more kids? Is he going to want paternity tests on those, too? Probably.”
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