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Mom-of-two left 14-year marriage to be with 'soulmate' she met just THRICE, and it did NOT end well

‘Crushes are not love, they are random chemical reactions,' said one comment

SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA: A woman has opened up about an emotional journey she had to go through after assuming that she had found her “soulmate” while she was on a trip with husband of 14 years. Amanda Trenfield from Sydney reportedly went with her husband for his three-day work conference in Margaret River, Western Australia, so that the two could 'reconnect'. However, on her first night in Margaret River, she met a man named 'Jason' and instantly felt a deep 'soulmate' bond with him.

The mother-of-two apparently left her spouse to be with the man but got a firm "no" from 'Jason' despite their instant attraction. Now, in her book – ‘When A Soulmate Says No’ –- Trenfield has mentioned everything from meeting ‘Jason’ to being left heartbroken by him. The Daily Mail reported that Amanda Trenfield first met ‘Jason’ during dinner. But when she returned she saw “her mystery soulmate offering her - and her husband - a drink,” the tabloid noted.

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“It happened to be my favourite rosé. And during the course of that evening we just stayed talking ... there was a depth of connection I just hadn't felt before,” Trenfield told Mia Freedman on the No Filter podcast as reported by The Daily Mail. She apparently could not contain her happiness and excitement, and the very next morning called ‘Jason’ to know if he’s interested in her too and asked for a bush walk.

“I opened the conversation with ‘I felt strange and very connected to you last night’ and he said he felt the same way,” she said before reportedly revealing that their conversation turned into “a few kisses” as they said goodbye to each other.

Sometime later, Trenfield went on to tell her husband that she wanted to end their marriage. She then emailed ‘Jason’ to know “if his feelings for me mirrored my attraction to and feelings for him. Surely. I couldn’t see it any other way. I couldn’t entertain the potential for any other perspective. I wasn't the only one in the energy that night. I wasn't the only one in our intense connection. My eyes were not the only eyes affected. I wasn't the only one in our kisses,” an edited excerpt from her book stated.

Initially, ‘Jason’ also expressed his interest in him before sending her a “brief, unemotive” message. She wrote in the memoir: “He'd thought about my proposition and decided it wouldn't be a good idea for us to catch up or stay in touch. He declared he didn't want to ‘mess with my situation.’ Oh, and as a final sign-off he said, ‘look after yourself.’ I was devastated.”

“I couldn't let it go though. As I began to construct the reply, my heart began to pound, my mouth became bone dry, and my body temperature felt like it was spiking above 40 degrees. I wanted to hide. I wanted to disappear. And I also wanted to be sick. I didn’t allow the emotions or physical sensations to stop me though. I was brave and I was open, and I showed real vulnerability - and I have never in my life been the vulnerable person. I have never in my life shared that level of openness with anyone,” Trenfield added.

Trenfield’s story has attracted a lot of attention online with a user tweeting, “My mom gave an excellent little talk on this subject. it boiled down to ‘crushes are not love, they are random chemical reactions’. I’ve since learned that hardly anyone else got a similar talk growing up, which really explains a lot of behavior that confused me.”

Another one said, “People give up their families  every day for fantasies. I've seen it over and over... Sad.” “Maybe it’s just me but if you left your family for your soulmate, then that said soulmate told you to kick rocks, wouldn’t you be automatically disqualified as a relationship expert? What reasonable human being would listen to this lady’s nonsense? 🤔” a tweet added.

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