Woman who refused to change eating habits to accommodate roommate's boyfriend gets Internet's support
The internet stood firmly behind a woman who refused to throw out food that could have caused an allergic reaction in her roommate's boyfreind. The scenario was discussed by Original Poster (OP) u/ExpertPotato7447 on Reddit's popular forum, "Am I The A**hole". The post received more than 7k upvotes and 1k comments from fellow Redditors.
In the Reddit post titled, "AITA for telling my roommate that I don’t give a fuck about her boyfriends allergies?" the 24-year-old woman wrote that she has been "living with my roommate Layla (25F) for about 10 months. We have a 2 year lease so I really want to fix this so we’re not miserable for the next year and to start I need to see if I’m in the wrong. Layla started dating Kyle about 6 months ago. Kyle has severe food allergies to shellfish, nuts and soy, as well as a lot of more mild/moderate allergies."
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'I told them I don’t give a f**k'
She further detailed, "I use nuts and soy a lot in my cooking and some occasional shrimp. At first, Layla would tell me that Kyle was coming over and I would just adjust whatever I was planning on making if it was something that would be aerosolized (mostly nuts) and this was fine. He’s never had any reactions at our apartment from my food. But it’s slowly escalated and now they want me to not keep any ingredient in the apartment that could cause him anaphylaxis, even if I’m not actively eating or cooking it while he’s over."
The woman refused to abide by their request and the argument escalated. "I snapped a little and told them I don’t give a fuck about his allergies. I can accommodate him to an extent but I don’t care if the contents of my cabinet make him uncomfortable. He doesn’t need to be near my things at all. They’re being very dramatic and insisting I’m gonna “kill him” with my selfishness by having closed jars of nuts in the kitchen I pay to use. But I’m not going to have my diet restricted by someone who doesn’t even live here. Layla isn’t speaking to me at all right now and I feel a little bad now because I do understand how serious allergies are but I also think they’re overextending boundaries by telling me what I can or can’t eat when he’s not even here"
'Kyle doesn't live there'
Redditors called the woman NTA (Not The A**hole) in this scenario. One user wrote, "NTA. Kyle doesn't live there. If his allergies are so severe, he probably shouldn't be putting himself in harms way by coming to your apartment."
Another user concurred, "Is he on the lease and paying rent? No? Then NTA. You are. You live there. You have a right to live there with your food and belongings. I think it's great you're trying your best to be considerate of his allergies in your cooking but that should be the limit."
A third user commented, "NTA Kyle's not on the lease, and this wasn't part of the arrangement you made when you and Layla decided to live together. A reasonable ask would be to not eat or allow the allergens in the living room (or Layla's bedroom), so Kyle has a safe space when he comes over (I'm not saying that, even if you refused that, you would be an a**hole, but at least to ask is reasonable). To tell you what you can and cannot eat or even have in the house, whether or not he's there, is overstepping. He doesn't live there and he's not on the lease. Surely Kyle lives somewhere; why can't Layla and he hang out at his place instead of yours, and avoid the danger entirely?"
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