'Get over yourself': Tennessee mom's DISAPPOINTMENT after baby's gender reveal sparks outrage
The mother has received split opinions online after sharing the ‘gender disappointment’ she felt after finding out her second child was another boy
A mom has received split opinions online after sharing the ‘gender disappointment’ she felt after finding out her second child was another boy. The Tennessee mother uploaded on TikTok the radically different moods she displayed between her reaction at her gender reveal party and later that night. During the gender reveal event, she opened a smoke cannon of blue smoke and seemed delighted, but subsequently recorded herself crying over the revelation.
Nicole Shamlin, the mother, claims that she wanted a girl and was disappointed to learn that her second child would be a boy. She also didn't see how she could love her 2 boys equally. She claimed in the post that she was "grieving the fact that I'm not getting my baby girl just yet" and that she was left wondering "How can I love another boy? Will I be replacing my first son? How can I love two sons?" She did, however, wrote in the caption that the feeling only lasted one day and didn't linger for very long. The mom added in a comment, "We are beyond happy and blessed to be having another boy but I wanted to share my genuine reaction to help others."
The post received over 250k views before being shared on various Reddit groups, where it received over 21k votes. It's not unexpected that viewers were divided by the mom's revelation given the controversial nature of the subject. One person wrote, “I'm actually a bit concerned here because this is a real problem for people." "Be thankful for the ability to have not just one child, but two, and the child itself," another added. “Then to post a pic of yourself ugly-crying about it to the world for all to see. And that's supposed to get her.. what exactly? Sympathy?? I do not understand,” yet another person remarked.
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Others, though, expressed more sympathy for the expectant mother and even discussed their own experiences that were similar. One person wrote, “It’s more sad than sad cringe. Pregnancy can do strange things to one’s emotions. I don’t know if this is what’s happening….” “Gender disappointment is a real thing and completely normal. For most people, it's comparable to when you were hoping for another red skittle but there's none left. Oh well, green skittles are good too so you'll just eat those ones. It's a fleeting disappointment that you get over very quickly. By the time you have a baby in your arms (or hit the end of the pack in the analogy), it's long forgotten,” another user explained.
"I don't know why she's getting so much hate here. These kinds of thoughts are normal. The amount you love your first child is crazy and it seems impossible that you could feel that way with another child, but somehow it makes more sense if they're a boy and a girl. When you do have them, of course, you realize there's room in your heart for both of them - it grows to accommodate. It honestly makes me sad people think this somehow makes her a bad mother or something,” yet another user remarked.