Transgender man who gave birth says he won't be doing it again after being repeatedly judged and abused by strangers
Wyley Simpson, 28, who started transitioning from female to male at the age of 21 years, has welcomed a baby boy with fiancé Stephen Gaeth
A transgender man's happiness knew no bounds when he gave birth to a baby boy. However, he now admits he wouldn't be doing it again after being abused and judged by strangers on a daily basis.
Wyley Simpson, 28, began transitioning from female to male at the age of 21 and later moved in with his fiance Stephen Gaeth, 28, in Texas, Daily Mail reports.
The couple discovered in February 2018 that Simpson was pregnant despite doctors claiming he could not conceive as he had stopped having periods from the testosterone therapy he was undergoing.
Wyley, who still has a vagina and female reproductive organs, carried through with his pregnancy despite the couple having cold feet and battling abuse and judgment from random strangers on a regular basis.
The 28-year-old gave birth to their 7lb 5oz son, Rowan, via emergency C-section, in September 2018. While Wyley admits that all the disparaging comments were worth it, he has decided not to go through with it again.
The couple has spoken about what pregnant life and parenthood is like with a transgender parent, as they recently celebrated their son's six-month mark.
"It's not every day that someone sees a pregnant man walking down the road, so we received a fair amount of abuse," Wyley said, speaking of his ordeal. "I would be told that I'll never be a man, 'men don't carry babies' and everyone called me 'it'."
Wyley intends to make the full transition in the near future after already having undergone surgery to remove his female breasts, which meant he could not breastfeed his child. He is yet to undergo bottom surgery, which is a procedure to graft a penis.
In an earlier interview with KENS5, Wyley admitted that he had not had a menstrual cycle "in years" when he first met Stephan. "We talked about testosterone and what I had been told by his doctors and what we had believed to be the truth. Turns out, that wasn't the truth," he said.
Wyley soon realized that he was suffering from morning sickness and later found he was pregnant at 11 weeks. "I was nervous. I was very emotional, I started crying. I didn't know what to do," he said of his surprise pregnancy.
Describing the unconventional journey that followed, he said, "I was already worried as this was my first pregnancy. But I was also nervous because I had to deal with a lot of stigma behind me being a pregnant man. Alongside receiving rude comments from other people, the pregnancy took a lot for me emotionally. Having gone through the transitioning process since I was 21 years old, having a physical baby bump was something so feminine that it messed with my head. But it was all worth it to have Rowan and to become a father – I wouldn't have changed a thing."
Wyley explains that he was only able to accept fatherhood once Rowan was born, despite being grateful that he could still carry his own child. That said, he has now settled into family life after giving birth and resuming hormone therapy.
"Once my physical bump had disappeared and I was able to take my hormones again, I felt good about everything," he said.
"Myself and Stephan suddenly turned into a gay couple with a baby, as opposed to me being a pregnant man. And Rowan is amazing, he made all of the mental and physical pain completely worth it. Now myself and Stephan are just reveling in fatherhood and can't wait to continue our journey as a family."
However, Wyley explains that he doesn't plan on carrying a child again in the future.
"I am looking to fully transition in the future, so the likelihood of having another child naturally is unlikely," he said.
"It was a great feeling to be able to carry Rowan, feeling him kick and going to baby scans, but for me as a person, it isn't something I can continue to do. I don't see myself as any less of a man because of what happened, but I just do not identify in such a feminine way as to be pregnant – so it won't be happening again. But I am glad that I got to go through something as amazing and natural as birthing my own child, it's definitely made mine and Rowan's bond so much closer."