Christine Abadir: TikToker, 22, fell in love with man she met online only to realize he was a WOMAN
For months, Christine Abadir believed she was in an online relationship with an 'attractive man' named Jay
SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA: Christine Abadir, a 22-year-old TikToker from Australia recently revealed she was catfished for months. Christine was involved in a romantic relationship with a man who claimed to be 'Jay'. However, she realized she was conned after she flew down to New Zealand to meet her love interest.
The TikToker also revealed that there were many red flags throughout the relationship and shared her story with nearly 2 million followers in a TikTok video. According to DailyMail, Christine said, "The Catfish apologized and we are good friends now."
Christine first came across 'Jay' on social media. The user used to constantly catch up with her and appreciate her. 'Jay' eventually gained her trust and Christine even made him the moderator of the comments on her videos. In the video, she stated, "The first red flags are during the months of talking not once did that person video call me, not once did they FaceTime me or give me their number."
"This person was really toxic, full on asking me that I can't hang out with my guy mates, I can't go clubbing and can't wear certain stuff," she said. Christine continued, "The red flags were all there, I didn't think it was a catfish until my mates actually told me." The 22-year-old also claimed that 'Jay' would send her songs and voice notes but rarely sent her any pictures of him. She went on to add that she and her friends were able to trace the phone number 'Jay' sent to her.
Later she explained, "The whole time it was a f**king girl." In another video before meeting her catfisher, Christine said that she had no hard feelings toward the internet scammer and said she would be happy to talk with her. "I'm giving my catfish an opportunity to talk about her life because I know she might be going through some stuff," claimed the TikToker. She then continued, "Please reach out if you need to talk to someone, you are not alone - I know what it feels like to be alone."
“My friends kept telling me from the start, ‘He isn’t coming out’. I was delusional, I had so many feelings of betrayal going on in my mind. I never thought I was catfished until my mates woke me up from my fantasy. I was angry, upset, and confused," said Christine in an interview with 7News.
She also stated to the portal, “Basically a part of my job is going Live on TikTok during the week and interacting with my followers. He would always join my Live videos so I made him moderator, which is a role you can choose for your followers to block out hate comments. After making him moderator, I introduced him to my friends on Instagram." Further, she added, “We started talking from there. I’m not going to lie, his photos drew me in... I found him attractive and we started talking. He flirted with me and it kept going every single day.”
“We were messaging back and forth for about three to four months before we made our relationship official,” she said. Christine claims that the relationship made her life better. “It’s ironic to say but it went better than most (real) relationships I’ve been in. He was my ideal type. He filled a void by always continuously messaging me and checking up on me. He made my life better and I made his life better.”
She also explained, “He told me he was at this club so I go there, I stood outside and I asked him to come out of the club to see me - but he said he wasn’t there anymore, he changed clubs." “It all hit me at once." Further, she added, “It was funny because that night we were watching 'The Girlfriend Who Didn’t Exist' on Netflix, all the signs in the documentary happened to me. It was crazy. But during our relationship, I feel like I missed the signs because I had that reassurance every time.”
Christine also found the man whose picture was used by the female who catfished her. “He is a great guy, he has kids and a girlfriend, 'Jay' was not his real name," said the TikToker. She also added, “The catfish came out and apologized to me, I still have a lot of questions but I would rather let it go. I have my closure now from both sides of the story: The catfish and the guy behind the photos and videos."