Women in married or committed relationships have better sex lives, says a new study
You may be missing out on some mind-numbing orgasms and sexual satisfaction by turning down "where is this going talk" - or so says a study.
It looks like Ashley Madison can really just shut shop now. As it turns out, on average, women who are blissfully married or committed in a relationship are having a bang on time in their sex lives, much better than the ones who have casual sex. A study published by Florida University studied more than 1000 women between the ages of 18 to 71 and found that those in sturdy relationships actually had 15 percent more orgasms than those who weren't, on average.
If that's not enough to make your single heart sigh, the researchers also found that those who had long-term partners also said they had more sexual satisfaction - 10 percent higher than single lasses.
The team also found that participants with long-term partners rated their sexual satisfaction as 10% higher than the single ladies. Sexpert Tami Rose tells MEA World Wide that ready access to willing partners with just a swipe is to blame. "So people who want to explore different options are able to do so much more easily now. However, sex is not just a mechanical act that brings pleasure, so intimacy and comfort with your partner can dramatically enhance pleasure but it takes time and effort to develop a deep level of intimacy and requires more than a swipe on a screen," she says.
But, it is needless to say that priorities differ and so do emotional needs because let's face it, relationships are a massive amount of work. However, if you're looking for the pleasure that the women in this study say they do, communicate before you unbuckle your belt, she says and make some hard choices. "Be upfront," she says, "Not everyone is in the same place at the same time."
It also has a lot to do with the effort and intention a committed partner would put into her needs, says Dr. Laura Berman, sex and relationship therapist and bestselling author of 'Uncovered with Dr. Laura Berman.' "They also generally need to feel safe before they can open up and enjoy sexual pleasure without inhibition, and for many women, it will be difficult to be open and vulnerable around a total stranger," she said.
Casual sex obviously does come with a lot of health risks like higher risks of STDs and unwanted pregnancies but there's also a chance of emotional risk, a higher one. Because we've got the oxytocin flooding our brains with happiness, it's possible we could totally catch feelings in a way men may not always do.
"Even if you go in expecting to have no emotional connection, sex can do funny things to you, especially if you are a woman. It is believed that higher levels of testosterone in the male brain combat the impact of oxytocin, which explains why men might be able to have casual sex with less emotional connection," Dr.Berman said.
Time to uninstall Tinder, maybe?