Woman dumps fiance days before wedding after finding out he is 'addicted to porn'
Claire Dalton decided to call off her wedding, which she spent six months planning, because she found out that her ex-fiance used to watch porn. The 21-year-old, who decided to not go through with the ceremony a week before it was planned, stated that she had always been dreaming about a relationship which was "true and pure" and "governed by god's law" since she was a young girl.
She thought that she had found all the qualities that she had been looking for her in fiance. The pair had been dating for four years before they decided to walk down the aisle. But she now thinks that it was "all a lie from the beginning".
In a blog post that Claire wrote for Love What Matters, she described what led to her decision of calling off the wedding. "At first, I thought it was some sick joke. It never occurred to me that pornography addiction would ever leak into my life or affect me in such a deep and excruciating way," she wrote.
Clare recalled that, a year ago, she and her unnamed fiance planned on running errands for their wedding which was supposed to take place in a week. In order to check if the store was open, Claire used her fiance's phone. "That’s when I found it," she wrote. "Three words on his search bar changed my entire view. Three words that showed he’d been searching for pornography possibly just hours ago."
To make matters worse for Claire, she found multiple windows with porn on his phone. He allegedly told her that his brother had a problem and it was possible that he got hold of the phone.
"The coldest thing I’ve ever witnessed in my entire life is the lying eyes of the man I love, gazing deep into my soul as multiple lies rolled from his lips. He knew it was all a lie but, for some reason, he could look at the woman he claimed to love so dearly straight in her eyes and lie to her face," she wrote.
The two then had a conversation which lasted for a couple of hours but Claire could not wrap her head around the entire thing. "I firmly called my wedding off as I sat across from the man I loved who suddenly seemed to be a stranger," she wrote. "I spent the night restlessly in a panic with uncontrollable tremors from my head to my toes. Everything felt dark and empty, and I couldn’t help but wonder if maybe the sun wasn’t going to come up in the morning this time. Maybe I’d be swallowed up by this suffocating darkness for the rest of my life."
While the coming days were hard for Claire, she knew that things would get better eventually. "I had to reach the point where I stopped seeing myself as a victim and saw myself as a woman of god with innate power and ability to experience healing and wholeness once again, which is exactly what I intended on doing," she wrote.
While Claire saw herself as a "victim", many people thought that she was overreacting. "He saw porn. She canceled their wedding. One of those is a massive overreaction. Hint: not his," wrote one person. Another added, "Why does watching porn once twice or even three times make you an addict? I had a glass of wine with dinner tonight, that doesn’t make me an alcoholic!"
Others thought it was wrong of her to write the blog. "If she truly thinks pornography is so bad then she's a pretty horrible person for putting her name and face out there to this story thus letting anyone, who knew who she was engaged to, know his personal life," read another comment.