Breastfeeding mother accused of trying to 'steal' other women's men by 'exposing' her breasts in public
39-year-old Reka Nyari was reportedly accused of stealing other women's men as she breastfed her 34-month-old daughter in public
Ever since she gave birth to her daughter Ilo, Reka Nyari has been breastfeeding the 34-month-old baby. However, recently, when she was on board a flight, a woman told off the 39-year-old for breastfeeding her child in public.
The woman also reportedly accused Reka of attempting to pick up her man by exposing her breasts in public. In retaliation to all the accusation, Reka, who is now trying to spread awareness and prove how normal and natural breastfeeding is, shared a series of naked pictures along with her daughter.
"It has been irritating how judgemental people can be about women who breastfeed, and how sexualized the breast and nipple have become," the Dailystar quoted Reka as saying.
"Possibly the most obnoxious person was a woman who was sitting in front of us with her boyfriend on a plane from New York City to Budapest, Hungary. She called me ‘disgusting’ followed by a litany of degrading swear words. Apparently, she thought I was trying to steal her man by quietly breastfeeding my baby during the landing of the plane," she continued. "Breastfeeding is natural, and our breasts were made for feeding our babies. Associating breastfeeding with sex or perversion is disturbing," she added.
Reka's daughter was born in the year 2015, since then she has been breastfeeding her. Dailystar reports that Ilo was never given the formula milk and advocating against the practice, Reka is now encouraging mothers to choose to breastfeed their children even after they turn one. Reka believes that she should be allowed to breastfeed her daughter anywhere including public places.
"She usually has breastmilk in the mornings when we wake up, and if I am at home, at night when she goes to bed," Reka added. "If she is feeling sick, she may want to feed more often and during the day. I have always been a bit of a lactivist (breastfeeding activist). I breastfeed everywhere my baby would want to be fed. It doesn't happen that often anymore as my daughter is older, but when she was a baby, I would do it everywhere; restaurants, shops, meetings, streets, the subway, you name it," she shared.
"Now that my daughter is 34-months-old, I get judged and criticized a lot. Friends and family roll their eyes, give disapproving stares, and tell me that I should quit," she continued. She also spoke about the difference she feels between breastfeeding her daughter then and now. "But it’s harder because you have to deal with a toddler who does acrobatics while they have a nipple in their mouth," she added. "It’s also harder because people judge you, and you have to constantly explain yourself."
"That is part of the reason I continued to post breastfeeding pictures on social media – to educate people that judge without doing any research. Why does a breastfeeding mother anger and irritate people so much? I have found that most of this anger is unfounded. As soon as people read on the matter, they become less judgemental. Breastfeeding and extended breastfeeding should be normalized. I feel sad when I read about a lot of mothers who breastfeed past a year but hide it because they feel ashamed or judged," she continued.
"I ask those that judge, what research they have that backs up their criticism. Then I kindly present them with the abundance of research that states that extended breastfeeding is beneficial to the mother and child," she added.