UK's first 'gender-fluid' family set for revamp as parents decide to swap genders
Nikki and Louise Draven are raising five-year-old Star Cloud as a 'person' not a 'boy', letting him choose his own gender
UK's first gender-fluid family are looking forward to a total transformation after both parents decided to swap genders, reports said.
Nikki and Louise Draven are planning to get under the knife to have their "ideal bodies" by the time their five-year-old son, Star Cloud, turns ten.
According to 32-year-old Louise, the biological father of Star, he is all set to become a woman and says it has been "a long time coming." Star already calls him "mummy". On the other hand, Nikki, the biological mother, wants to be called Charlie after undergoing the female-to-male procedure, Mirror reports.
The duo asserts that they are raising Star in a gender-neutral manner — Star is a "person", not a "boy", they say, while claiming the five-year-old has his own "understanding" of the familial situation.
Having said that, Star has now started asking questions, Charlie revealed. "Recently he asked why I had to wear a swimsuit at the pool and not trunks like other daddies. I tell Star mummy is going to a special doctor who will take away her ducky, which is Star's word for penis," she said.
Star is free to play with dolls and paint his nails. In January, he even cut his long hair, but according to Louise, he is in "two minds now about whether or not he wants it long again...However, he wants it is fine by us."
Speaking of the gender reassignment surgery, Louise said, "I have doubts all the time but that's just part and parcel of my transition. No one chooses these feelings but when people do, they need the outside of their bodies to match the inside."
She has had to lose a staggering 16 stone since 2011, from 25 to 9, in order to have the surgery in December. "I lost the weight because a raised BMI can cause complications with the surgery and the hormones," she said. "I did it using bariatric surgery (reducing the size of the stomach), which involved a complete change of lifestyle, diet and in my relationship with food. It wasn't easy and took a lot of self-discipline but, as you can see, it's worked brilliantly."
Nikki said: "I was never happy about having periods or growing breasts. It felt all wrong. So I did some soul-searching and realized I've always wanted to be male."
The Dravens have spoken about the challenges Star faces when other children impose their views on him.
"Star is only in nursery but has already been put under pressure by other children. He came home the other day saying, 'I can't play with dolls — they're for girls'," they said. "We sat him down and explained that anyone can play with dolls and that it's good practice for when he grows up and is a daddy. He said, 'I might not be a daddy – I might be a mammy!'"
After appearing on a number of TV shows, the family has apparently had to deal with a lot of hatred and judgment.
"Most people were pretty supportive, especially people we met in person," said Charlie. "But some of the written comments were horrendous. One person wrote that we should kill Star Cloud before he became a serial killer, committed suicide or killed us. Unbelievable how people could say such dreadful things about a four-year-old!"