'The Talk' sees Oprah Winfrey share about her complicated relationship with her mother and 'disease to please'
It was a crossover episode for daytime television on Thursday’s episode of ‘The Talk’ when co-hosts Sharon Osbourne, and Carrie Ann Inaba met with none other than Oprah Winfrey! Away from the sets of ‘The Talk’, at Winfrey’s 2020 Vision Tour in San Francisco, the co-hosts had an exclusive interview with Winfrey.
“You made me call my mom, immediately, because I have a troubled relationship with my mom,” Carrie Ann Inaba told the 66-year television icon. “Just hearing your courage that way, I know what it did for me.”
Winfrey responded with, “I had a really complicated relationship with my mom, and I think people who come from oppression, as my culture has, when you're the first in your family to do anything well, I mean all the basketball players and football players and anybody whose been successful knows this, first thing everybody says is, 'I want to buy my mom a house.’”
Winfrey also spoke about the famous “disease to please”, a phrase she coined that marks the tendency of some women to put the wants and needs of others well above their own. She said, “I was saying 44 is it, when you sort of come into your own and you stop listening to what everyone else has to say.”
Osbourne added to this with, "It's horrible… you know when somebody that you love, but you know they are taking advantage of you, financially, whatever way, and you still take it. And you just want to say 'Look, no,' and you can't,” adding, “I don't have the courage inside to do it to certain people who I love, so I don't do it.”
When asked about her favorite moments from the 2020 Vision tour, Winfrey said, “Every city has been different. Each person has brought their own magic. You know, Michelle Obama is as authentic as they come. She is like the roots of the tree. And so, everything that she allows people to see comes from this huge space of authenticity.”
She further added, “The Rock (Dwayne Johnson) was so vulnerable because I interviewed him on a Saturday, he had buried his father on a Tuesday. So he comes with all of that. Amy Schumer texted me two days before saying, ‘Can I wear my sweats because I don’t even feel like getting dressed.’ Yes, come as you, everyone is going to accept you. Lady Gaga was phenomenal because she allowed us to know that mental illness, the way everybody speaks about mental health... She allowed us to see how real it is by actually naming her medication.”
‘The Talk’ airs Monday through Friday at 11 am PT.
