Parenting experts call out father who "publicly humiliated" his daughter by filming her walk 5 miles to school and putting it online
Matt Cox's daughter Kirsten had lost her bus privileges after she had name called a student and blocked another from getting off the bus
Parenting experts have frowned upon an Ohio father who made his daughter walk five miles to school after she was not allowed on her school bus for bullying another student. According to experts, Matt Cox "publicly humiliated" his 10-year-old daughter, Kirsten, by making her walk the miles to school to teach her a lesson, filming it and then putting the clip online.
Thirty nine-year-old Cox, who is from Swanton, shared in a Facebook post that his daughter was suspended from using the bus privileges for bullying. It was the second incident involving Kirsten who name called and blocked another student from getting off the bus, Matt shared with DailyMail. As a punishment and means to teach his daughter a lesson, Matt made her walk to school and recorded it on his phone.
"Today, my beautiful daughter is going to walk 5 miles to school in 36-degree weather. I know a lot of you parents are not going to agree with this, but that is all right. Because I am doing what I feel is right to teach my daughter a lesson and stop her from bullying," Matt can be heard saying from behind the camera. "As you see this morning, she is learning otherwise," he continues.
Since the posting of the video, parenting experts have given their opinions on Matt's choice of punishment. Sue Scheff, a parenting advocate, called the punishment "public humiliation" and shared with ABC News, "The internet can be so unforgiving, and your child will watch it over and over again online. It's like salt in an emotional wound, and the sting can take a long time to heal -- especially when it's a parent that did the shaming."
However, Cox is of the opinion that all parents must hold their children accountable for their actions and teach them that their actions will have consequences. In a Facebook post which Cox shared on Saturday, he wrote, "Am I a bully for making my daughter walk to school? No me holding my child accountable for her own actions and giving her a punishment does not mean I am a bully."
"It means I am a being a parent, a father trying to teach his daughter that life has consequences for our actions and that we have to be accountable for them. I'm a dad trying to teach his daughter it's not ok to be mean to others because words and actions can have lifelong effects and sometimes life-ending effects on others. Lastly, I'm a father trying to teach his daughter not everything is just a right there are a lot of privileges in life and that we need to be grateful for them. None of that makes me a bully," he continued.
The video soo went viral and Cox took the opportunity to read and discuss the comments with his children to explain that just because you don't immediately see how the way you treat someone makes them feel, doesn't mean it doesn't affect them.
He hopes that other parents will help their children learn the same lessons, though he says that the video going viral was never intended.
"I really had no idea it would take off like that but it has the entire nation talking so not only is it bringing awareness to bullying, which the more awareness that's brought to the bullying epidemic the better in my opinion, but it is also bringing awareness that we as parents need to stand up and hold our younger generation accountable if we want to make a change in this country," he shared.