OutDaughtered's Danielle Busby responds to date nights critics, says keeping 'marriage as a priority' is the best way to protect children
Danielle and Adam Busby have had their share of ups and downs in a relationship but the reality stars have always sailed through. Opening up about her relationship in her blog, Danielle reflected on the importance of keeping marriage first as being the key for a safe and secure home for the children.
"Adam and I get a lot of criticism for having “too many date nights," she said. "We whole-heartedly feel like by taking care of our marriage first, we are doing what is best for our kids. One of the essential things that children need is a loving and secure home and to us, that need can be met only by making sure the relationship between Adam and me is strong."
Danielle informed people that often after marriage and having children one stops putting their spouse first and focuses all their attention on raising children. However, she stated it was important to pay attention to little details of their significant other to maintain a healthy relationship.
"If you are thinking that you are doing what’s best for your child by putting your spouse on the back burner, you are sadly mistaken. The best way to protect your children from these things is to keep your marriage a priority," she said. She advised parents not to listen to what society has to say and instead focus on what they think is best for their family.
"If you listen to what society says, you will believe you aren’t being a good parent unless your home is “child-centered.” This is when mom and dad are absorbed in their children and spend their parenting years being entirely child-focused, making that the center of their world. But I don’t want to feel like I’m just a mom- or maid, or chauffeur, or cook! You cannot expect to put your spouse on hold for the next 18 years, then just pick up where you left off," she said.
She continued, "Making time for our marriage is a PRIORITY. I realize sometimes this can be difficult, but with some effort, it can be done. The biggest challenge is managing your time. Healthy couples don’t find the time, they make time together. To do this, you must put your “couple time” into your busy schedules FIRST – and write it down!"
Danielle further added that one of the best ways to ensure that marriage always has a spark is by spending time together and going on dates.